22weeks pregnant not with the father

[Winniemoo]

Im 22 weeks pregnant and not with the father of my child.. we are going to co parent and were seeing each other casually for almost 9 months before i fell pregnant.

I know that in my choice to keep this baby that i was also chosing to go through this by myself... but i am struggling (damn pregnancy hormones) im wanting soo much more from the babys dad and am getting nothing he hardly even checks in on me once a week?!?!

For the sake of getting through the rest of my pregancy 18 weeks is too much to ask to chat to him to see if he can prehaps meet just some of my needs and wants for the rest of the pregnancy?!

So i dont feel like im emotionally being suffocated and just literally emotionally dying in general..

Have you sat down with him and discussed this? You need to tell him exactly what you want.

However, you did decide to have the baby on your own, so if he doesn't want to get majorly involved during the pregnancy then there's not a lot you can do to be fair.

Unfortunately he doesn’t need to be there for you and there is no baby yet so I think once a week check in is ok, daily contact would be unusual considering you are not together and there is no baby even when there is most exes don’t speak daily.

No i havent done that yet.. as i didnt even know if i realistically was in any position to do that as i know he doesnt have to be there for me.. so thats my question can i put my needs and wants out there see if anything changes or hes receptive?

I think ill feel better if i put it out there regardless of the outcome at least i can move on then and stop wishing something mircaulously changes.

Maybe get into a group of single mums to be or in similar situations and chat daily to share pregnancy progress, questions and for emotional support?

Are you clear on what you want from him or your interactions? Do you have other support?

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. Getting too close to an ex is complicated when you know you have no romantic future and you’ll need to forge a new relationship to parent your baby. If he says he can’t be as involved as you want at this stage it may be because he’s trying to keep clear boundaries you can both stick to longer term.