Help?

[Gem1355]

Hi i would like some advice, i'm 22 weeks pregnant with my first baby, the baby's dad and i broke up before i found out but it was a mutual thing, i later found out i was 3 months pregnant, he said he wanted me to have an abortion but i told him i couldn't bring myself to do that as i was told i had a very slim chance of conceiving a child, i see him everyday as we work in the same office but he still doesn't want any thing to do with me or his child?
Any advice as it's getting me down.?

Soon enough you will be on maternity leave and your every thought will be consumed with your precious baby and getting things ready. Does it bother you that he doesnt care or just the fact that you have to see him everyday - as you said you split up mutually before you found out. the thing is nothing has changed in his life. His body is the same, his emotions are the same. You are aware of being pregnant every second of the day so it is always on your mind but not his - does that make sense? I know it's no excuse though. There are lots of single mums on here who will give you heaps of support. My mum was a single mum with both me and my sister (different dads 13 years apart) and she did an amazing job bringing us up. I hope it all works out for you

Thanx i think it's because i see him everyday, and everyone at work are always talking about the new arrival but he just is either nasty or just ignores me he say's i'm ruining his life and it hurts coz he doesn't seem to think how this is hurting me emotionally.

To be honest Gem, and this is a bit blunt, I don't think he cares one way or another how you feel. It seems to me that he is only concerned with himself and what's going on with him. It would probably be better for you if he were to ignore you completely. I think you should try and focus on the positive things. You are carrying a child that you want. There are so many exciting times ahead of you (yes there's also the hard work... but hey go with the flow). Do you have friends who are sharing the whole thing with you? A girlfriend to be excited with and try out names with, window shopping in all the baby shops? Don't worry about him. Concentrate on you and your little one.

exactly what marslady says. You are obviously better off without him. Carry on chatting about it at work and getting excited. If he is being nasty/feeling awkard or left out that's his own doing - not yours!!
You are about to have an amazing experience - and its his loss!!!

Thanx yeah i do try but it's hard when you sit opposite everyday, theres only one other person i know who is pregnant but it's his manager!
i'm really excited about the baby and so are my family,and my new boyfriend but he just winds me up!

Honey, can you talk to your manager and ask to be moved, or even better for him to be moved. You see his pestering you and even the ignoring you is bordering on harrassment. Make that point to your manager. As she's pregnant she should have some sympathy for you and recognise that you shouldn't have to spend your day in such a stressful situation. Not sure how much help that is or that I can be, but I'm sending you lots of {{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}

Glad to hear your family are all excited and your boyfriend too. How long do you have before you leave for maternity leave? As soon as you are on that he's out of the picture - in the meantime definately have a word with someone at work about him.

Hi i go on maternity leave march 18th,
all my managers know about it but we have no where to move to they won't move me because i'm one the top customer service advisors and he is the top on non standard, and as he used to be my senior i don't think they will move him.

ok as you cant get away from him I would say to go the other way and rise above him. Dont let him see that he's getting to you - if for any reason you have to talk to him for something work related be nice as if this whole situation doesnt exist. It'll confuse the hell out of him and he'll soon learn that his nastiness has no effect on you.