Wishing I had a normal pregnancy

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I know there are lots of people out there who don’t have normal pregnancies but feeling a bit down and wondered if anyone would mind sharing their stories of a not normal pregnancy so that I (and others in the future when on google) can feel less alone?

Mine is I have awful HG (severe sickness), low platelets and seem to grow small babies (IUGR). I don’t think we can risk having any more children due to the HG. Even multiple medications don’t really help. It’s makes me sad and wish I could have more normal pregnancies. I weigh less when full term than when I get pregnant and throw up for the whole 9 months. Just feeling a bit down that I can’t complete my family.

Hi, this might not be helpful, but I had HG my entire pregnancy. I threw up from two days before my missed period until the very end. I would throw up 15 or 20 times a day. In and out of hospital. I couldn't drive, I couldn't leave home much, I considered terminating several times, and it was the worst 9 months of my entire life. I'm now pregnant again, and....I think I might be fine? I have nausea, but it feels like an utter breeze compared to HG. It took me three years to come around to the idea of going through that hellscape again. It's still early days, but maybe I've somehow dodged a bullet? I'm only writing this because I wish somehow had told me there was even a sliver of hope I might one day have a normal pregnancy. Sending you lots of hugs. I am so sorry that you didn't get the pregnancy experience that you wished for. It is okay to grieve what you missed out on, and it's okay to grieve the months of agony spent over the toilet bowl. Are you open to seeing a therapist and chatting about it? I had a lot of unresolved issues related to particularly bad vomiting sessions, the disorientation and dehydration, the lack of compassion, the snide comments people would make, and the feeling that I'd missed out on 9 months of living. If you do decide not to try for another baby, a therapist could really help you come to terms with it and find some peace. Wishing you the best x