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How common are false positives?

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whatamigoing2do · 20/08/2022 14:25

I am trying hard not to freak out but I need some advice. I am in my mid 40's and have 3 older children. I can't remember when my last period was I think may/June. I can't remember having one last month and I think this months is late so I was assuming that as I am the right age I am starting to go through menopause. I have had sore boobs but they are not as bad now and I have been feeling tired and felt quite queasy on a few occasions, especially when any one eats chips! I bought some cheap tests from home bargains so I could rule out pregnancy and the results are below. I have done 2 tests at different times. Are these tests known to be inaccurate? What are the chances of 2 false positives? Could it be menopause? My DP is away for the day and this isn't something that I want to share over the phone

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whatamigoing2do · 21/08/2022 09:01

I had given up dairy as it doesn't agree with me but now I assume I should start eating it again?

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whatamigoing2do · 21/08/2022 09:02

At least until I know

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Greeneyegirl · 21/08/2022 09:31

I used those tests recently OP and I was about 6 and a half weeks when I started to get dye stealers in the AM. I would say you're about 6 weeks based on your last test

RinklyRomaine · 21/08/2022 09:53

You need a scan so you can date the pregnancy and start thinking of your options. Those tests are very positive indeed, and actually given the age of your older DC I wouldn't necc expect to feel anything externally until quite a way along.

Best to discuss meds with a midwife - if you need pain relief you need it, and probably more so in pregnancy. You don't need dairy if it doesn't agree with you but it might not be a bad idea to start a pregnancy supplement. I was advised plenty of vitamin D.

I have a smaller gap but had 2 DC in my 40's, my third when I was 43. I won't lie, I'm knackered. Knackered, but very happy. Pair of little devils they are but I have oodles of patience, more money, a very stable marriage and an older DC who loves to be involved. It's fine.

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whatamigoing2do · 21/08/2022 10:06

My DP's biggest fear at the moment is our age. He will be 70 when it's 18. He is worried that we would leave a very young person behind when we died. I think we will remain in limbo until a scan and then if it's healthy a decision will have to be made. I can't honestly see me choosing to terminate a healthy baby but it's not just my choice and as much as I may be thinking with my heart I need to think with my head too

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Greeneyegirl · 21/08/2022 12:05

That's difficult, 70 is quite an age to be when your child is 18. Although 70 "feels" younger now IYSWIM? My granny at 60 seemed like an old doddery lady, my MIL at 60 is still so active, adventurous and happy. If your DP is thinking of his own parents at 70 I can see how he might feel that is impossible.

Gossipxox · 21/08/2022 12:11

Looks like your pregnant as for your medication don’t worry! Codeine can be used during pregnancy (especially early stages) your other tablets can also be used during pregnancy.. definitely speak to your doctor asap and go from there. Hope everything works out for you xox

SirVixofVixHall · 21/08/2022 12:19

We have friend where the Dad was in his early sixties and the Mum in her early thirties when they had their baby. Sadly she died young and he is a very hale and hearty eighty something. Nothing is predicable.
I had my dc in my forties, I think there are both pros and cons to every age really.

MaverickSnoopy · 21/08/2022 20:07

It's a huge shock for you OP. Take it on day at a time and one thing at a time.

Step 1 see the GP.
Step 2 get a dating scan
Step 3 reflect and see how you feel

Tell yourself you're not going to put pressure on yourself to decide right away until you have had your dating scan.

If dairy upsets you, then best not to start having it again. You can get lots of calcium fortified things like oat milk and bread. Try to keep things as normal as possible for now.

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whatamigoing2do · 21/08/2022 20:19

@MaverickSnoopy Thank you. I feel like I am just counting the hours until I can call the gp. The more I am sitting by with it the more I am coming round to it or rather not thinking I can face not having it

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whatamigoing2do · 23/08/2022 16:02

Just a little update that I have been for a scan and I am 5+6 so very early days. There wasn't much to see as it was so early so I am going back in 2 weeks to see if it has progressed

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Happychapp · 24/08/2022 07:32

Tentative congratulations OP, I hope you and your partner are ok and that whatever decision you make you look after yourself. Thank you for the update, I've been wondering how you are x

MaverickSnoopy · 24/08/2022 15:01

Congratulations OP, I hope you're ok and you're looking after yourself. Take it easy, one day and one thing at a time.

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whatamigoing2do · 05/09/2022 18:15

Just came back to update. Sadly I lost the baby and it was confirmed with a scan this morning. I know it wasn't planned and I was really shocked but I am unbelievably sad and cant understand why other people can't see the world is falling apart today, I know it's not really and it's nothing to do with any one else but my world is and as no one even knew I cant even talk about it.

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belimoo · 05/09/2022 18:38

I'm so sorry OP, how awfully upsetting for you. Just because nobody knew though, it doesn't mean you can't talk about it now if it would help. You must be feeling such a range of emotions. Could you perhaps access some therapy/counselling to help you to process it all?

optimistic40 · 05/09/2022 20:38

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Doodledeedum · 05/09/2022 22:43

I'm so sorry. I know what you mean. It feels like the world should stop because yours has.... I'm so sorry. It's early but such a huge loss x

chlochloxxx · 06/09/2022 20:01

Hi there, sorry I came across your comment and wondered if anything came of your positives?

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whatamigoing2do · 07/09/2022 12:05

My update above tells you. I was pregnant but lost the pregnancy last week

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Happychapp · 11/09/2022 12:55

Oh @Whatamigoingtodo I'm so sorry to read this. It doesn't matter how planned/expected it was, it was real and it was yours and it is devastating that you lost it.

I've experienced pregnancy loss myself and it just knocks you sideways. If I could be so bold as to offer some advice, I would say don't bottle it up. Talk to people about it, and about how you feel. The whole 'don't tell people before 12 weeks' thing makes it so much more isolating when it goes wrong. You, and the pregnancy, deserve to be recognised. Sending you an enormous hug.

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Happychapp · 11/09/2022 16:57

Sorry meant to tag @Whatamigoing2do

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whatamigoing2do · 12/09/2022 22:02

Thanks @Happychapp, I'm still struggling but told my mum this week. It was good to tell her. My youngest is being awful, as only 12 year olds can be, and it's so hard that she doesn't know how low I already am and don't want to deal with it.

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