are you the only one pregnant out of all your friends etc.

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feeling a bit sad that i am going through pregnancy and none of my friends are or anyone from toddler group at the moment. Does anyone else feel like this..
It seemed when i had ds, it took me about 10 months to begin to make nice new friends and although their kids are all younger we still have things in common and they are delighted that i'm pregnant, it just feels like i won't have as much in common with them anymore - is this just my hormones?

I'm the only one. They are all jealous though

Don't worry, pregnancy is contagious, sooner or later you'll notice one of them looking a bit fatter and nauseous. Besides which you'll fast become the 'expert mum' with your range of experience and they will all sidle up to you to hear you impart your 'wisdom'

I am the only person I know in RL who is pregnant at the moment. It took us ages to conceive and everyone else has already had their second baby... so I feel like I am playing catch up!

it's normal to feel a bit like that

I am 30 weeks and the only one I know at that stage (sister delivered November though, and just found out friend- albeit one who lives very far away- is 3 months gone with twins), but when I got pg with ds2 ds1 was only 5 months old so I took that extra step years before they did- and it felt odd, but 2 is a different story altogether anyway: toddler groups etc not so easy when you ahev a pair to manage LOL (and with the 4th one coming up due..... )

I am the opposite - everyone I know seems to be pregnant at the moment - 1 person at work gave birth 6 weeks ago, another friend was due a week ago (haven't heard from her yet), another one like me was due yesterday, another at the beginning of Feb, and another one in May. Then when you add in friends of friends there are loads more, including the sister of the friend who just had hers. It seems like every other week I find out about someone else. Then again, we are all in our late 20s, so I suppose we are all at that stage - same as weddings - I got engaged in Sept, within a month of 2 friends, and another got married in Dec.

I am the only one of my friends who is pregnant and the only one who has gone for no.3, so actively feeling like I need to seek out someon in a similar situation to me. I have a neighbour a couple of doors down who is pregnant and due the same time as me but she is a bit younger and this is her no.2 and she has a little girls who is quite a bit younger than both my DS's, so not that much in common yet.

I'm the only one of my closest friends who is preggers at the mo. Although will still have these as my closest friends, hoping to meet some mums at ante-natal/post-natal groups, as don't know anyone locally with babies!

When I tell my friends (who are the same age - 36) to get on with it I get "we're waiting to see how you guys get on with it"...

So - am making sure I show we are coping well, or none of them will get round to it! They see us as tough cookies, so I guess if they see we can't cope, they'll doubt themselves as potential parents!

Feel really bad, as it was on the advice of one friend who is struggling to get pregnant telling us don't leave it too late - we tried and were successful first attempt! She's now been told IVF is her only way and her first attempt has just failed!

with dd1 i was at uni and was the only one out of my friends who had a child. my sisters dd waas born 3 weeks before mine so we went through it all together iyswim. with dd2 a couple of friends had their children at about the same time and my sis was 5 mths more pregnant then me. this time im pregnant by my self (sis has decided to stick at 2) and it is strange being pregnant by myself.

Thanks for all your messages, i'm pleased i'm not that alone!

You just have memories of how tough it was with my last child, he was an easy baby really apart from colic and the ususal stuff but i found not having close friends who i could confide in about gp & sister pressures and adjusting to making new boundaries, dh was supportive but he is coping with being more assertive with his parents.

Hopefully mbk your frien will be successful with ivf next time.

Thanks bb - I am hoping for that too - feel guilty for it having been that easy for us when 2 mc and 1 IVF later, she's still trying 2 yrs on. She is pleased for us and will be a great Mum when she gets there!

Yes (so far as I know). Lots of friends are struggling with ttc at the moment (first and second children), and I feel really guilty talking about being pg to them.

With ds1 a very good friend was pg at the same time (babies born about 2 weeks apart) and it was lovely to go through it with someone (and compare symptoms and worries). Really miss that this time.

hi i just thought i would post and join in...
i am literally the ONLY person in my family and my group of friends IRL who has got a small child (DD is 2) she is the youngest in the family (the last child before her is now 14) i work inconvenient times and these usually fall on the playgroup times so i dont even know anyone else distantly who has got small children. i was the first of my friends to have a baby and the others arent interested in having babies or talking about anything baby related so it looks like there are a few of us out there who are in this situation we should all get together
xx ei xx

I am the first and only female in our group of friends who is pregnant. I feel a wee bit alone as they all live in the UK still and I am overseas. But they have all been really supportive with emails and phone calls so I don't feel so bad.

I am looking forward to them all getting pregnant though as I will be the expert by then and can help them all with it.

I am the first within my friendship group to be having a baby (almost there - 35 weeks now) and I don't think any of my friends will be pregnant for a few years yet. I am 28 years old and very aware on that my patch (live in SW London - worked in Soho) I am relatively young to be having a baby! I am starting my NCT classes tomorrow and really hoping there will be someone there who is close to my age - don't get me wrong, I'm not adverse to being friends with a few thirtysomethings (I already am!) - but I think sometimes it's important to be surrounded by folk from your own age group. Having said that, I like the idea that eventually I can tell all my mates the slightly nasty pregnancy things no-one told me!!!!

hijak alert - sorry.

avonbarksdale -- hiya, i'm also 35 weeks and am in SW london, am 30, not sure if that's out of your stipulated age range , anyway let me know if you ever fancy a coffee and bump comparisons.

cheers (... more of a mcnulty fan myself btw...)