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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

I just need this to end now

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Bananacrumpet · 13/08/2022 09:21

This isn't even a question, just a rant, so apologies to anyone who this comes across as entirely negative, it is, I just need a space to voice my feelings without consequence.

This morning I was walking up the stairs in agony & the thought went through my head that I wish I could just lie down on the floor and die so this would be over.

Fully appreciate I am clearly being completely hormonal and OTT but I just cannot cope with this pregnancy anymore. I suffer with perinatal anxiety and depression, this time I have been treated and I'm on sertraline and I've generally felt okay. I've recently been diagnosed with obstetric Choletasis and I feel like death warmed up. The itching is unbearable and is like torture. I've declined medication as I'm 37 weeks so I can't see the point in medicating a problem when I'm full term and having a c section at 39 weeks anyway.

I'm in constant pain, my toddler that was breastfeeding rarely is obsessed and asking all the time. I'm tired and feel crap. My mood is down the toilet and now it's another fucking heatwave. I'm honestly just fucking done.

This morning I've been thinking that I really don't want a girl. We don't know what we're having and I've honestly had no preference all the way through or before. I currently have a little boy and he's wonderful but a healthy baby is all I care about and yet I'm randomly thinking if it's a girl I probably can't love them and don't even want to name them and definitely don't want to breastfeed them.

What on earth is going on with me? I just want this baby out. I'm stressed and poorly and I don't want to cope anymore. This is all such worlds away from my first pregnancy.

I had an emergency c section with my son. He was born very poorly and was rushed down to NICU. We spend months in and out of a hospital far from home. It was hell and of course I don't really want an early baby but I honestly think I'd be crazy enough to cut them out myself right now the way I'm feeling.

How on earth to I keep going for another two weeks?!

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Ladyoftheprom · 13/08/2022 09:30

You take the medicine!

Bananacrumpet · 13/08/2022 09:33

It's not just as simple as take the medicine. It takes time to work and the consultant has said it would have a limited impact if any at all. It's not going to have time to be effective at symptom control before I deliver anyway.
There's risks to the baby's heart that are magnified by the fact that taking sertraline can increase blood pressure for the baby.

It's not safe for me to suddenly stop taking sertraline and to be honest my mental health is a bigger risk I think. I don't have time to reduce dose gradually

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HaresHoping · 13/08/2022 09:34

I'm so sorry to hear this OP, it sounds beyond tough. You've got an awful lot to cope with.

Have you spoken to anyone about how you're feeling? Friend or midwife or partner? I think you deserve a lot of support and they might be able to help, I would definitely reach out to a medical professional. Lots of people feel like this I think and midwives will have experience in offering some support.

Also, like PP I would suggest taking the medicine too if you can - if it offers any relief surely it's worth it?

Sending you so many hugs, it sounds really hard and you're doing brilliantly. Hang in there Flowers

HaresHoping · 13/08/2022 09:35

Sorry just seen your second post about the medicine - ignore my comment on that x

vroom321 · 13/08/2022 09:38

Can you up your Sertraline? I've been on them 12 years on different doses but still feel crap so I know it's not that easy.

Bananacrumpet · 13/08/2022 09:48

@vroom321 they won't increase my dose of sertraline right now as it increases the risks around the baby withdrawing at birth and it's just around the corner. I can increase the dose as soon as I deliver though. This was the plan anyway & I have lots of support from physiatrist and mental health midwife planned after birth to manage it things take a nose dive.

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LittleRobins · 13/08/2022 10:13

Antenatal depression really is no joke with all the hormones flying round. It can make you feel like you’re really at the lowest possible point and there can be so many feelings of supposed pressure to ‘enjoy the pregnancy’ (I hate when people say that!) and guilt that you’re somehow doing something wrong. Having a little one to look after alongside it must be incredibly tough. You’re very close to the end now, you’ve completed a huge percentage of the pregnancy already so you’re on the final stretch. It sounds as if you may be understandably affected by your sons traumatic delivery and the weeks after that. Are you concerned that the same may happen again with this baby? Do you have much support around you?

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