Obsession with testing after miscarriage

[Mum2be86]

Anyone obsessed with testing? I had a miscarriage early June and found out a few days ago I was pregnant again, I’m only around 4 weeks but keep testing daily to ensure the line stays strong as last time the lines faded and after a few days I got negatives. Please someone tell me I’m not totally crazy and you have done/are doing this?

was going to get an early scan privately but I’m so scared they will say somethings not how it should be 😢😢

I'm the same, 4 weeks today after a miscarriage and spending a fortune. I've been bleeding since 7Dpo too so so scared. Had HCG tests and all seems to be ok so unsure why I'm bleeding but have an early scan at EPU booked for Monday! Hope you are ok and I genuinely think the urge to test eases off eventually (it did with my first anyway!)

I had a miscarriage in November and march
now im 18 weeks pregnant .I tested most days
till I was 8 weeks booked a private scan after that I relaxed a bit sill done the odd test until my 12 weeks nhs scan .its normal after a loss I still worry sometimes x

Huge thanks and big hugs to you all your amazing!!

im a little more relaxed this morning after doing another weeks test and it saying 2-3 (never got past 1-2 last time before I got the not pregnant) still going to be testing like a mad woman tho I’m sure x

@Mum2be86 I did the same - digital this morning and it said 2-3 and last time never got past 1-2.

Fingers crossed for us both x

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had one a couple of years ago and then got pregnant with my daughter two months later. I was a nervous wreck during the first trimester but she was born healthy 😊I totally understand the need to keep testing, but just remember the line darkness can vary based on time of day, how much water you’ve drunk etc. Try not to worry too much!

@Kate120 thanks for your response I’m starting to relax a little more now but still really anxious about it all. The testing for me hasn’t really been about line progressing it’s more ensuring they just show as when I had my miscarriage a couple of days before the lines were fairly none existent and prior to that they were strong and showed within seconds and had positive on digital also. So I think more then anything this time I’m just ensuring they stay even if just faint. But up to now they are as strong as they can be. Midwife called me yesterday and I’m booked in for bloods in the 5th September and scan will be October time so I’ve booked a private early reassurance scan for in a few weeks time as think that will help me relax a little more x

I say this not to scare you but gently, really all of this testing does is waste your money and put you through the ringer with constant fear as you wait for the lines and analyse and compare them. I have had a miscarriage too, and it’s so bloody shit. I was 18 weeks, the baby had died 5 weeks prior very soon after my 12 week scan. My body had continued to be pregnant, the placenta had kept growing, and pumping me full of hormones. I was still throwing up multiple times a day for 4 of those 5 weeks. Only started to get suspicious around 17 weeks as my hormones had obviously just started to drop enough that things were changing. So realistically, a positive pregnancy test would not of meant my baby hadn’t died.

I honestly do feel your pain. I’m 14 weeks again at the moment and it’s gut wrenching. I have spells of happiness and optimism where I just think there’s no way this could happen to me twice, but largely I’m anxious and scared all the time that I’m walking around in the same boat as last time without realising. You have to be so kind to yourself in pregnancy after miscarriage, it’s a rough road but nothing reassures for you long. Save your money for something nice, a 16 week gender scan, something nice for yourself or the baby, but stepping away from the test kits and just accepting that unfortunately after what we’ve been through there isn’t that innocence in pregnancy anymore, and it is full of doubt, but that all we can do is try and have faith in our bodies and not get too stressed. I know it sounds like a load of shit. My midwife told me that no matter how much I stress and cry and Google if I’m going to lose this baby none of that will stop any of it, it just starts my stress however many weeks sooner. Horrible but also true! Hoping for a happy ending for us both. Love to you x

Hey op, I totally totally understand how you feel. I've had 3 miscarriages this year and with the second one I tested obsessively, the line Never got dark, never got past 1-2, and I miscarried just before 5 weeks. It was a horrible stressful time but I felt a bit like I knew it was coming due to the tests... With my third MC I tested obsessively again, had dye stealers at the right time, got 3+ on a digital at 5+4, all looked great based on tests and symptoms, but I devastatingly lost baby at 6+3 after some bleeding and a scan which showed us the heartbeat the day before. Again like @doingitalllagain it all again I don't say this to worry you, and I'm hesitant to post this, but I just wanted to show that even tho they do give reassurance, they can't predict the future 😔 in saying all this I'm 5+2 approx again. I've tested a bit but not as much. Got a dye stealer on a FRER on Mon so I've stepped away for now and will do one more digital at 6 weeks approx to check for a 3+. So I get it, I'm still testing too but ultimately it's good not to do it too much as all that worry and stress as we wait for the lines to come up can just be a massive energy drain. I got super down a week ago when my lines on cheapies weren't getting darker for 3 days. Eventually it did! And I wasted a whole two days worrying.
Sending loads of love and positivity to you. If it helps an early scan may help put your mind at ease. Xxx

Also to reiterate, I really don't want to worry anyone. Line progression etc can be a very good sign a pregnancy is healthy. If it helps, there's no harm. But it's just good to remember they aren't crystal balls, especially if it's making us anxious or we feel obsessed etc. Sending love tho I've absolutely been there /am still there and much harder to take the advice than give it!!

My lil 5 week pregnancy in right place. No heartbeat yet as too early but glad it's in my womb! X

@doingitalllagain @Skylark1990 huge thanks both for your response I really do appreciate It, I’ve got a private scan booked for the 27th I will be 6+6 I think so hopefully they will be able to see something and I can relax a little then.

I did the same!
However I emptied the shelves in Poundland of tests. I think they were 2 to a box for £1. They are the dip stick version but worked just as well. In the very early days I sometimes did more than 1 a day to check if the line was getting darker.

I would have been 9 weeks and 5 days pregnant but I misscarried last week. My test is almost negative now , I can see vvvf positive shadow on the ultra early pregnancy test. I want TTC as soon as I can but I'm not going to test a lot because lines on the pregnancy test don't give you a guarantee that the pregnancy is progressing as it should. I intend to wait until my period is due and then test. If it's positive - great but I'm not going to track the line progression like I used to. I'm just going to confirm bfp with a digital pregnancy test and then hope for the best .
Why?
Because when I was 6 weeks pregnant I started spotting - very very little. I had a scan when I was 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant and it showed an empty gestational sack measuring 5 weeks and 2 days . I was told to wait 2 weeks but I knew my dates weren't wrong. I fully misscarried a week later. After my scan I did the pregnancy test and guess what it was still blazing positive. I misscarried last week on Wednesday- after cramps which felt like early labour my tests have begun looking less and less positive.

I just wanted to share my story with others to see. It's not worth to spend a fortune on pregnancy tests.

I was the same after my miscarriage, I kept it up until my 12 week scan then finally felt like I could relax a bit more.

Wishing you lots and lots of luck xx