Please help a very confused 4 week pregnant Mumma

[blueberry23]

Can anyone offer me any advice?

Trying for baby #2. I had a chemical pregnancy in May – waited a couple of months then tried again. Within that time I stopped breastfeeding as I had a short luteal phase and was concerned this was the reason for the loss.

Got a BFP a week ago at 9DPO – started bleeding that evening, first pink spotting, then bright red/dark red blood, on and off, sometimes really heavy other times very light, and this has been going on for a week now.

FRER’s blazing strong positives and getting stronger daily. Though I can’t afford to keep buying and testing!

Had blood tests done over last 6 days – results as follows:

Today @ 14DPO – 140hcg
12DPO – 86hcg
10DPO – 34hcg

So obviously they over doubled initially, but then have not quite doubled over the last two days.

I explained my concern about progesterone levels due to breastfeeding to EPAU and they have prescribed me some progesterone and booked me for a scan on Monday when I will be 5 weeks pregnant.

I am just so exhausted. I feel like I can’t be excited because I am worried about the bleeding and my HCG levels. The doctor did not really explain much – whether they are normal or not, if it’s a huge concern they haven’t doubled.

My main concerns are – will progesterone just complicate things more? I am worried about putting more hormones in to my body when I have been trying so hard to regulate my cycle etc. Also, if my body isn’t “ready” to be pregnant, and I force the progesterone, could that be a danger to the baby? Part of me feels that if my body wants to let this pregnancy go, then that is what needs to happen.

My other major concern is that if I have been bleeding so much, but am still pregnant – will my baby be harmed in any way? Could this mean that they may have abnormalities or suffer in some way? As that would just be so awful. I am so so concerned about the amount of blood.

Also if anyone has experience of taking progesterone I'd be keen to hear from you.

If I am going to miscarry I wish it would just happen.

Not even sure what I am asking for but if anyone has gotten this far…. Thank you so much. All and any advice welcome.

Have you done a digital? What does that say?

Hi OP, sending big hugs and sorry you are going through this! I’m by no means an expert, but didn’t want to read and run, so I thought I’d try to answer some of the questions I have some idea about.

I can’t help on the hormone levels. I think the last result isn’t a great sign but I don’t know for sure.

I would take the progesterone as prescribed: from my understanding it won’t hurt the fetus and I don’t think it will “mess up” your hormone balance in any problematic way. Sounds like they have prescribed it as they think it may help your body sustain the pregnancy.

Similarly, I don’t think the bleeding will harm the fetus or cause abnormalities. There can be so many reasons for bleeding in early pregnancy; and bleeding does not necessarily mean that the pregnancy is not viable.

it may be the case that you are already miscarrying this pregnancy, and nothing can stop it. or it may be that the pregnancy is still viable and your body just needs a little help with a progesterone boost. Equally it may be that the pregnancy is still viable and the bleeding is due to another reason not related to progesterone. In the latter case I don’t think extra progesterone will hurt. It’s so hard, but I think it’s just a waiting game at this stage. I’d take the meds the EPU prescribed and wait it out.

good luck! Xxx

Thank you @Tandora - this is really kind and helpful.

I think you are right in everything you say x

@Horoscopegubbins no I haven't done a digital but my FRERs are v v strong positives.... trying not to spend any more money on tests!

Hi OP, we've moved this over to the Pregnancy board

Does anyone else have any wisdom to pass me?

HCG doubles every 2-3 days in the first few weeks. Once you hit 6 weeks it doubles every 96 hours. Your numbers are fine as they are in line with that.

Thanks @Littlegoth the nurse on the phone said my numbers were lower than they had hoped for but my research tells me the same as you have said!