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Pregnant & so worried

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Leerose2015 · 09/08/2022 01:01

Hey everyone,
I've just found out I'm pregnant with my 2nd child (my DD is 7 years old) and I'm absolutely petrified as I've only been with my partner for almost 7 weeks - we used protection but it split, so I took the Ella One morning after pill but it didn't work - so I'm now approx. 4 weeks pregnant & feeling very frightened as its so early in my relationship 😰
I'm definitely going through with the pregnancy as I've had a termination in the past & I just cannot go through that again, I already feel a bond with this baby, but I'm so worried as my life is currently so settled with my young daughter & I can't help but feel I'm letting her down 😰 I'm 35 years old, I own my own house, I have a good job & a very loving family, and my partner has said he'll support me... I guess it's just fear of the unknown - I'm so worried my parents are going to hit the roof as they have such a huge involvement with my daughter & they've not even met my new partner yet... my mums always telling me how much I'll mess my life up if I have any more children (my mum played a big part in my decision to terminate a pregnancy in the past) - and goodness knows what my work colleagues/friends will think etc, as they all know I've been with my new partner for literally weeks 😥 I'm totally freaking out, I can't sleep & my minds in complete overdrive 😢 The only comfort I have right now is knowing that I'm a really good mummy to my daughter & I know I'll love this baby with all my heart - this may be my last chance to have a baby as my biological clock is ticking somewhat, I'm just so worried about the pressure my mum will put on me when she finds out, as well as all the other worries of having a baby this soon in a new relationship ⏰ Any advice would be greatly appreciated - I feel so lost 🥺🙏 Thanks so much x

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Danikm151 · 09/08/2022 01:09

Take your mom out of the equation.
if you feel you are able to raise another child then that’s what matters.
forget about judgement from others at work. I wasn’t in a relationship when I got pregnant- contraceptives aren’t 100% effective.
i made the decision to carry on with my pregnancy and have an amazing son. Nobody else matters but you and your children.

Jaaxe · 09/08/2022 02:02

Try not to think about what other people will think, this is your life and it sounds like you will manage just perfectly with another one. If you are worried your mum will pressure you into a termination (which btw isn’t very supportive of her) then don’t tell her yet, you don’t have to tell her until you are ready then present her with the good news. Yeah it wasn’t planned but a lot of babies arent. We are pregnant with our unexpected 4th I also took morning after pill and failed like yours, I’m coming up 20 weeks and me and my partner haven’t told a soul yet as we don’t want any unnecessary judgement or comments from other people just yet, we’re still getting our own heads round it. Once your baby is here your family will love it just as much as your daughter so don’t worry x

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