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Pregnancy hormones making me act like a nutcase

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 15:26

Hi everyone,

I am currently 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant and I have felt really well up until last week. My partner went to a wedding abroad for 4 nights which I was originally going to go to until we found out I was pregnant. At the time I was fine about my partner going on his own.

Fast forward to the day he flew out to the wedding and I felt I turned into an absolute nutcase... I was terrified the plane would crash, whilst he was out there I was insanely jealous that everyone was having a good time without me and I was fuming at my partner for it, he could only use wifi to message me so I didn't hear from him 24/7 and I was sooo cross about it. I felt like he had abandoned me. I hardly slept or ate and felt like I was sitting by the phone waiting to hear from all the time. He would tell me he is having a good time and I'd burst into tears. Everyday I told him how sad I was!!! I think he was frustrated with me whilst he was away but also genuinely worried about me as it was so out of character.

Now he is home and I feel so so bad. The guilt is eating me up. I feel like I have ruined his trip and now I cry about that!

Today I feel much better and I feel like it has cleared. Is it normal to have mood swings and emotions like this? It was so out of character and I feel so embarrassed.

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 15:27

Oh and I also cried because he didn't bring me any chocolate back from the airport.. this usually wouldn't even bother me!

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ShirleyJackson · 08/08/2022 15:28

Hormones. It’s not your fault.

And he should have brought you chocolate!

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 16:21

ShirleyJackson · 08/08/2022 15:28

Hormones. It’s not your fault.

And he should have brought you chocolate!

Thank you. I had no idea if it's normal or whether I should be concerned!

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Terriblethirtytwos · 08/08/2022 16:38

So much changes when a woman falls pregnant. You are responsible for a little life. You will think about and put this person before yourself, always. You are now most likely financially dependent on your DP, maybe not permanently but while you’re on maternity leave, at least. You are physically more vulnerable. Your life is changed forever - your body, your mind, your career, your financial security all take a hit. Very little changes for men. I don’t say all this to worry you or as if it’s a negative thing - being a mother is the greatest joy and privilege of my life. It is also the greatest sacrifice and the most significant change I have ever been through and that’s the same for loads of women. It just isn’t the same for men, at all. I think a lot of this stuff (as well as feelings about your own childhood…) starts to bubble up during pregnancy. It’s often the time when women are confronted by levels of structural sexism that they haven’t been exposed to before. Maybe try to chat with him about everything. If your behaviour was really out of character hopefully he will hear and reassure you. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Terriblethirtytwos · 08/08/2022 16:38

And yes, forgetting the chocolate is unforgivable.

Houseofbloodymen · 08/08/2022 16:41

You seem like a nice nutcase. In some of my early hormonal stages I would have wanted the plane to crash (joking!) But I'm utterly a hormonal crank x

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 20:03

Terriblethirtytwos · 08/08/2022 16:38

So much changes when a woman falls pregnant. You are responsible for a little life. You will think about and put this person before yourself, always. You are now most likely financially dependent on your DP, maybe not permanently but while you’re on maternity leave, at least. You are physically more vulnerable. Your life is changed forever - your body, your mind, your career, your financial security all take a hit. Very little changes for men. I don’t say all this to worry you or as if it’s a negative thing - being a mother is the greatest joy and privilege of my life. It is also the greatest sacrifice and the most significant change I have ever been through and that’s the same for loads of women. It just isn’t the same for men, at all. I think a lot of this stuff (as well as feelings about your own childhood…) starts to bubble up during pregnancy. It’s often the time when women are confronted by levels of structural sexism that they haven’t been exposed to before. Maybe try to chat with him about everything. If your behaviour was really out of character hopefully he will hear and reassure you. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Wow I’m blown away, you have just hit the nail on the head there. Thank you so much. That makes so much sense.

I did speak to him about it all he seemed fine and very understanding, so that’s good.

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 20:04

Houseofbloodymen · 08/08/2022 16:41

You seem like a nice nutcase. In some of my early hormonal stages I would have wanted the plane to crash (joking!) But I'm utterly a hormonal crank x

Haha I will show my partner this if this happens again!! 😂

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Rachaelrachael · 08/08/2022 20:14

Totally normal. I constantly switched between crying at adverts to being raging angry for no reason at all 😆

rickandmorts · 08/08/2022 21:07

Why didn't you go and enjoy the wedding with him OP?

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 21:42

rickandmorts · 08/08/2022 21:07

Why didn't you go and enjoy the wedding with him OP?

The wedding was in a bit of an obscure location. You couldn’t fly direct there so it was a flight and then a 3 hour coach journey on non air conditioned coach in the heat! I was worried I was going to be feeling very sick and tired (had no idea how I was going to feel back then!) and thought the coach might be too much if I was suffering to be honest. I was also a bit worried about money and decided to be sensible! On hindsight I could have gone as I haven’t had many symptoms at all, which I guess didn’t help with me feeling sad about it.

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Cottage123 · 08/08/2022 21:43

Rachaelrachael · 08/08/2022 20:14

Totally normal. I constantly switched between crying at adverts to being raging angry for no reason at all 😆

Crying at adverts! 😂that’s very reassuring thank you

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Terriblethirtytwos · 08/08/2022 21:59

Glad to be able to help! I remember how confronting I found my first pregnancy. And I also cried at a lot of adverts haha

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