DM buying clothes for baby

[Fortuny]

Possibly a bit of an AIBU. I'm expecting soon and getting irrationally annoyed by my DMs mindless purchases for the baby.

It's mostly clothes, they're all scraps from the sale rails of poundland and supermarkets in random sizes. Some examples include; a newborn summer hat with sun flaps for a late autumn baby, 9 month fleecy joggers just for when peak summer hits and today I got some Disney stuff with loads of fussy accessories. None of them are practical or going to be vaguely useful. They'll likely all end up in the charity shop because it'll be out of season and the baby will have grown out of them by the time I can.

I've asked her to stop, and she won't. I'm not overly precious about what to dress the baby in, it's not like they'll be wearing designer gear. I think what annoys me is she's clearly buying just because they're cheap tat, and giving it no further thought. I'd rather she didn't bother as it's just so wasteful and pointless.

Give it to the charity shop and don’t give it any more headspace.

Perhaps she’s enjoying buying for a new grandchild. You’re a bit ungrateful and a bit harsh.

You’re taking the sizes way too seriously first of all.
just charity shop them and move on or ask her politely to stop. Say youve already bought loads or whatever you want to say.

I get this, but some things are discounted to 20p for a good reason. I think she enjoys getting a "bargain" and there isn't much logic beyond that.

She just sounds a bit excited and is a little out of sync with what you'd like.

Agree with the others, you can't be sure what size they'll be in a few months though. My DS was tiny so definitely wasn't in 9 month old clothes at 9 months.

Is there a charity shop that she doesn't visit that you could offload them on to?

Could you also drop some hints like "oh I'm not sure I've got enough sleep suits in size 3 to 6 months and I've seen some lovely ones in Next that I was thinking of getting". She might take the hint and start getting some nice things you'll use

My 9 month old has been in 12-18 month and some 18-24 month clothes for weeks now. I wouldn't worry about sizing too much!

Keep them at hers so that when he needs a change of clothes when you're visiting she's prepared. Means you don't have to store them and if there's nothing suitable isn't it lucky you have spares in the changing bag? @

I had this. I just Smiled and gave them to charity.

I know I sound overly precious. I'm really trying not to be. But even the way she presents them is like she's trying to wind me up. "Ooh I've done something you won't like, here's some..." Etc. If she knows it's rubbish then don't bother.

She is excited

Take anything you can get as you will be changing your baby about 7 times a day in the early days

dont worry about sizing - tends to mean little - so usually the only size you may outgrow quickly is the newborn size

Keep them at hers so that when he needs a change of clothes when you're visiting she's prepared. Means you don't have to store them and if there's nothing suitable isn't it lucky you have spares in the changing bag?

This seems like a very sensible approach.

She's having the time of her life, and you don't have to use the stuff. Just thank her and smile!

I'm with you OP, I hate the mindless buying of 'stuff' just for the sake of it. It's wasteful (financially and environmentally) and unnecessary. It's not just self serving as the only person benefiting from the purchasing is OPs mother.

What does your DH say about it?

Yeah, this. I mean granted the sun hat probably won't get used! But clothes - you won't know what size your baby is until they arrive, so things that seen out of season may end up being perfect in fact. My 10 mo has been in 12-18m for about a month now. My eldest was in all the baby sizes pretty much bang on to their actual age as they were much smaller. Eldest was a summer baby and youngest an autumn baby, so cos of the size difference all eldest's stuff fit youngest at the appropriate season which has been very funny and useful!

He doesn't care, but has a similar DM who buys absolute crap for most birthdays/Christmases because it gives her something to do. So he's used to smiling and heading straight to the charity shop. I guess I feel pressure to keep in case I get asked to put them in the stuff.

I guess I feel pressure to keep in case I get asked to put them in the stuff.

You could always make up an excuse like you've lost it due to baby brain, it's in the wash or baby has been sick on it and the stain just wouldn't come out or they've outgrown it.

They grow so quickly at first and like others have said they probably get changed a few times a day so so won't be able to keep track.

Argh my MIL is like this. First pregnancy she asked if we had a registry then bought nothing from that and instead sent us a bunch of cheap crap. For example, she sent me four diaper bags (someone else already bought me the one from the registry so I ended up with 5). She sent me books for 5 - 8 year olds. I got an infant snow suit, it doesn’t snow where I live and baby arrived late spring. It’s her lifestyle though, she buys cheap and in bulk so her house is overflowing with things she doesn’t need (but was a bargain) and when you visit she is always trying to foist something off on you. I’m having husband tell her gifts should only be for grandchild’s birthday and Christmas - wish us luck