Small age gap advice

[maskedmother]

I have a 9 month old and I am pregnant again! I'm 14 weeks so im finally beginning to get my head around it 😁. My son will be 15 month when this baby comes, anyone have a similar age gap with their babies and have any advice? How did your eldest adapt to having to share you etc? If you breastfed, how did you find it with at toddler running around? I feel guilty that my son wont have one on one with me all the time anymore 😔

I have a 14 month age gap and - 3 year age gap

6,5,2 ! Their all really good to be honest. And I'm due again in 9 weeks ?!? I'm CRAZY I know haha
But When they was baby's it was harder yes but now their getting older and independent they are great, not so great when they argue but the youngest 2 are like double trouble! Do everything together it's really nice to watch and they help me Care for DS6 who's disabled like get him toys to play with etc an help feed him. Iv cried a few times watching haha !! But Iv always said I wanted them close in age, get the sleepless nights out the way an then you can enjoy it

Congratulations xx

13 month age gap here. The first year is tough, but I liked getting all the nappies, sleepless nights etc out of the way rather than dragging all that our for years! Unless of course you decide to have a third.

Get a double out and about pram, pick one up second hand if you can, I loved that pram, so easy to push, and we used to just head out as much as we could. I found it a bit overwhelming being at home too much on my own with them as it inevitably resulted in lots of mess, toys everywhere, dirty dishes etc.

Try to baby proof your main living area as much as you can so it's not too stressful having a toddler running around while you're trying to feed/change the baby.

Don’t feel guilty. You are giving your son the amazing gift of a sibling. Don’t think about what you are taking away from them, in my opinion they gain much more from a sibling than they lose.

I had an 18 month gap between ds1 and ds2. I was nervous but it was actually much better than I thought it would be. In some ways easier than a bigger gap as their needs are still fairly similar and you aren’t having to juggle school runs, homework.

I found the first year quite intense and full on. I have no family nearby and dh works away a lot so it was literally just me a lot of the time which was hard. But worth it. My boys are very close, they are 5 and 3.5 now and they are best friends, regularly try to kill each other ans then best friends again 2 minutes later 😂 they miss each other so much when the other one isn’t there. We never had any jealous as ds1 was just too young to understand and he doesn’t remember a time without ds2.

I didn’t breastfeed either of them so I can’t offer any advice with that. If you are on Facebook there’s a really good group called 2 under 2 uk only which is really helpful as there are loads of mums on there who have or had 2 under 2 and can offer practical advice.

Good luck and you will be fine I’m sure. I went on to have a third baby with a 3.4 year age gap between ds2 and dd and in some ways this is a harder gap as they don’t cope as well with sharing your attention when they are older!