Feeling detached from pregnancy. 11weeks 4days

[blibbyblobb]

Hi,

Ive been putting off writing this post for a while as i thought i would feel better but its getting worse

Since 9 and half weeks pregnant ive not been feeling pregnant, symptoms reduced and fully stopped a week ago. Im now 11 weeks 4 days. I don't feel "connected" to the pregnancy anymore, its such a weird feeling to describe. I keep reminding myself i can still be pregnant as im not bleeding, symptom reduction is normal at this stage etc but the heart just doesn't feel it.

I have on/off cramps for the last week but no bleeding some of the cramps have been due to IBS flare up. I Have lots of yellow thick blob of discharge (no smell or itching). I feel really emotional.. I can be sat watching a good TV show and tears falling without no explanation.

I was thinking of getting a private scan but decided to wait it out til next week when i have my 12 week scan.

I think deep down im scared of a miscarriage, but i know things will be more clearer after the scan.

I guess i want to know if anyones felt similar, had similar experiences.. What was your outcome? Good or bad..

Thanks for reading 💕

Bump

I haven't experienced this but I would say if a private scan will save you another week of worry maybe it would be worth it? It's normal to feel anxious as the 12 week scan approaches. It's a long time from the bfp to the scan and you can feel like there isn't any real proof you are pregnant in the early stages. I was quite sick but I have seen many friends and family who had little to no symptoms. If you are worried about the discharge maybe contact your gp/epu? I'm sorry you are feeling so low x

I felt pretty much exactly the same. My nausea subsided quite a bit around 9-10 weeks which I thought was too early but was reassured by the doctor it was totally normal. And I’ve had the yellow discharge the whole way through, in fact it was one of the main things that made me realise I was pregnant as I had it with my first. 12 week scan last week and touch wood seems ok 😊

Hey Blibby,

I am sorry your feeling this way, but if it helps i also felt this way around the same time as you.
I was convinced that y pregnancy wasn't going to go to term, that bad news was waiting for me at every scan/appointment - and I convinced myself not to get attached because it would hurt less when it went wrong.
I think its your minds way of trying to protect you.

I am now 32 weeks, and i have to say with every week, every scan, every milestone of pregnancy I grew a greater bond with my to be DD. I compared myself to other people/posters who seemed hopeless in love with their baby from the start and thought there must be something wrong with me, but comparison is always the devil.
That was their story, and this was my story. I now couldn't be more in love with my little bean, but i didn't always feel this way.

I just wanted to say my story so you know your not alone, everyone handles pregnancy differently, and because our story wasn't the 'norm' doesnt mean its any less special, or mean you wont be in love with your little cherub by the time they arrive.

Your body and mind is going through an awful lot right now, so be easy on yourself. Allow yourself to feel your feelings without guilt and know you are not alone. Many have felt the same before you, and many will feel the same after xx

Thank you for your responses 💕 im glad to hear that im not alone and things did turn out positive for those who have experienced this. Im thinking of looking at some counselling as i feel like i am experiencing perinatal depression. Thank you all for reaching out ❤️

@blibbyblobb

I been feel like this for awhile but I am going for a private scan. I can't wait until 24 August for my 12 week scan.
Saying that I am hoping I am wrong and all is okay. For me it was because of really bad pain on right side and after didn't feel pregnant. Just hoping everything is okay and that's all I can think of.
I hope all goes well with the scan. I am sure it be fine. Trying to keep positive too.

I generally tend to feel disconnected till I hit around 18/19 weeks. Not for lack of symptoms as I have disgusting hyperemesis but because I've had a second trimester loss before and also the baby isn't doing much in this time. Once movement starts I immediately feel connected like ok this is happening now.

I would've gone for private scan if my 12 week scan wasn't in a few days. I think once i see the scan and shape of a baby then it may feel more real, or until i can feel movements. Even though its unplanned its much wanted and i really dont want to feel detached to it.. Positive vibes to all 💕

Sounds like your having more emotional symptoms than physical. Your still early and will feel different as you get closer xx

Op i sympathise a lot. I lost my first pregnancy and now I'm ten weeks with the second and I am just anxious and feel like there's no point being happy because it's all going to fall to shit again. My scans on the 23rd so there's no point going private now when I can't afford to. I think some level of anxiety and mood changes is normal but if you are starting to feel depressed and need extra support please reach out to your midwife. They are there to help.

Yh it could be the mind/body protecting itself from hurt that its not feeling attached as my last miscarriage caused PTSD... Im going to see how i feel after the scan and if im still the same im definitely going to look into getting some support. Thank you all for your lovely and kind words x