Drinking four weeks pregnant

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Lalallals248 · 01/08/2022 17:31

Sorry for the long post, but does anyone have any experience of drinking in the fourth week of pregnancy and things being okay?

My husband and I have had three miscarriages, each one characterised by no symptoms and a lot of bleeding. Friday before last, I found out I was pregnant. No symptoms, which is strange for me as my boobs normally hurt, and then the bleeding began. Light pink at first but then bright red with lots of clots by Tuesday. EPU refused to see me because I was too early; they just told me to take paracetamol and see how I got on but clots sounded like a miscarriage. Husband and I were devastated and I had a glass of wine to calm me down. Another big bleed happened on the Thursday. Loads of blood and clots and some pain inside - filled a pad - my mum saw and cried and we assumed miscarriage. Again, EPU were unhelpful and just said it didn’t sound good but too early at 4 weeks to see anything. Husband and I bought a bottle of vodka and I had four drinks and cried. Today I did a test as instructed by the EPU to check it had gone to negative. Not only was it positive, but it was one of those clear blue and suggested that my hormone levels had risen. Boobs also suddenly excruciating. Called GP today who suggested my ectoprian could be to blame for the large amounts of bleeding. I feel awful that I’ve been drinking alcohol and baby might still be okay :(. Doctor says it all looks positive and not to worry about the alcohol but I’m devastated that I’ve likely caused harm to a baby I’ve tried so hard to get :(. I’ve considered terminating and doing it again properly.
just looking for reassurance.

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Whatelsecouldibecalled · 01/08/2022 17:38

Lots of people drink at that gestation as they are unknowingly pregnant and baby is fine.

Don't drink any more. Try to rest if you can and I hope it al works out.

Jenhen89 · 01/08/2022 17:48

”I’ve considered terminating and doing it again properly” - that’s not how life works. Don’t worry about the alcohol, focus on getting a scan done as soon as feasible to ensure everything is ok with regard to the bleeding.

Good luck!

PcosSOS · 01/08/2022 17:57

Try not to beat yourself up about it, you can't change what's happened and you clearly care very much about your pregnancy and baby so try to release any guilt about the situation. It sounds like you've already gone through so much so please try to be kind to yourself. I know lots of women who have drunk alcohol unwittingly at this stage in pregnancy and everything was fine. I also know women who have done everything by the book before they even got pregnant and have unfortunately had very complicated pregnancies and births, so it definitely isn't a simple as doing X means X happens. Obviously you are going to stop drinking now so please do try listen to the doctors advice that it is looking positive. Do you have an early scan booked in? You should have been offered this in spite of the bleed due to your history. I had one at 6 weeks due to a bleed with clots and thankfully all was fine and I'm now 17 weeks. Try and take things one day at a time and really be kind to yourself. Xx

momtoboys · 01/08/2022 18:01

When I had my first appointment with my doctor after finding out I was pregnant the first time I said to him "I was drinking before I knew I was pregnant!" His response? "Mrs. Momtoboys, as far as I am concerned, drinking is what gets women pregnant!". LOL

fizzyfood · 01/08/2022 18:03

I got very drunk at my brother's wedding, next day found out I was pregnant, no problems.

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Lalallals248 · 01/08/2022 19:10

Thank you all for being so kind and reassuring. I’ve felt so afraid and fearful that someone will think I don’t love my baby. I was genuinely convinced that I wasn’t pregnant because of all the blood and the lack of symptoms and the fact that the EPU seemed pretty convinced when they asked me to do another test to make sure levels were decreasing properly. I know it’s my fault for drinking, but I’m upset about the absolute lack of support they showed me given my history and the amount of blood. There’s no way I’d have drank if I’d have thought for one minute I was pregnant with a viable baby, but I can’t change it and four weeks is still early and a time when a lot of people drink. My mum said that my auntie, who got pregnant at 15 and was terrified, drank a litre of gin in an attempt to cause a miscarriage with her daughter - who’s now forty and absolutely fine!

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winterbabyrose · 03/08/2022 16:23

@Lalallals248 I drank quite heavily when I was 4 weeks pregnant, as it was my hen do at the time - so you can imagine how much I drank! Obviously had no idea I was pregnant at the time!!! Was due AF 2 days after my hen do and it never arrived so did a test and was positive. I now have a very healthy perfect 6 month old! :)

Seraphim87 · 03/08/2022 16:35

I didn’t out I was pregnant till 6 and a half weeks and had drank in the preceding weeks after being told we got no chance of conceiving naturally. It happens in a lot of people. Don’t beat yourself up you were dealing with a massive amount of stress

faithtrustandpixiedust · 03/08/2022 16:49

I didn't find out with my first until I was 9 weeks, 3 weeks previously I had been on my works Christmas night out and got the drunkest I'd been for a very long time I felt so terrible when I found out and was so worried I'd done damage but everything was fine and DD is now a healthy thriving 2.5 year old. Don't worry x

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