Broodiness - ignore or consider trying again?

[ILiveInAmphibia]

37 with a 10 year old & a 6 year old. I know it makes sense to stick with 2 and I can rationalise that it's just hormones etc etc but I just can't stop thinking about my imaginary third child and how time is running out 😔. We can afford it and have enough space but other than that I doubt it's a sensible decision.

If you have been thinking about it and have everything to provide, and your dh agrees. I would try again. I have 3dc myself and I love it, maybe just a year younger than you.

Only you and your DH know if you’re done or not.

What I will say is that I had exactly the same feelings at 37, and my kids were exactly the same age. We decided against having a third and I saw it as inevitable hormonal broodiness that I think a LOT of women get as they approach 40…and I think I was right (for me, anyway).

My broodiness completely vanished at around 40/41. In fact, I suddenly couldn’t imagine anything worse than having shall children again,

I’m now 45 and currently on holiday with my 18 and 14 yr old…and SO glad we don’t have a 7/8 years old with us .

small children

It is your hormones talking. The teen years are full on with them needing more emotional support and taxi service into the evening etc.

You would would have at least one teenager for a long long time 😳 they are knackering in your 40s let alone 50s!

If you went ahead I doubt you'd regret it but little ones are more work than you remember.

This is helpful, thank you! Sounds silly but I hadn't really pictured it in 7 or so years time. Definitely need to think some more.

I think I’d like a third but won’t. My reasons are it’s easier to manage 2 and cheaper, house isn’t quite big enough for 3 not is the car. But also because I know a few people with three and many say they didn’t enjoy the third pregnancy and didn’t really get chance to enjoy the baby stage because of having two others.
I think many women would have liked a third though.

I am also 37 and have never felt 'done' with having kids. Currently 27 weeks with #4 🤣. It's not for everyone, but I love the chaos of a larger family

I’m also getting to the end of nappies and buggies and looking forward to other adventures and carting less stuff around.