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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

PCOS. BFP. No embryo. I'm sure they're wrong...

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Hopefullhopeful · 28/07/2022 17:04

I've been trying for a baby for some years. Thanks to PCOS this required needing to go through fertility treatment with my now ex husband (Which involved needing to loose a substantial amount of weight) and the usual medications as well as tests to ensure the issue was with me and not him etc.

After the breakdown of my marriage I decided to continue with my weightloss for my mental health more than anything but my fertility journey came to an end.

I ended up finding myself in a new relationship, the guy is a beautiful being, I fell pretty hard, pretty quick. I was very open about my fertility struggles from the get go as he doesn't have children and I needed him to understand the difficulties I face just incase he felt I was cheating him out of something.

Fast forward 18 months and whilst on holiday I didn't feel right, popped to a pharmacy to grab a test as since my weight loss my cycles although long (33 days) have returned each month, some for a few days some for a full week but still each month. However this cycle they hadn't returned at all and I was due on whilst abroad.

Not thinking for a split second I was pregnant I peed, left it and wondered what was up with me. Tired, bloated, starving hungry, especially first thing.

I I <=======

Two lines. I was in shock. So much so I went back to the pharmacy and bought two more tests from different brands. Same thing.

Now I've kept logs of my cycles for as long as I've been tidying to conceive. OPK stick results and CM descriptions as and when.

My ovulation doesn't always register just because I bleed but I remember so clearly thinking one day that I'd peed myself because my discharge was so apparent. Perfect egg white CM. I tested and blinding positive OPK without a shadow of a doubt.
Although we hadn't done the deed (as I've never been actively trying but always taken the line of, if it didn't happen before with medical intervention ... It won't happen now) we had a couple of days before and a day after. This fell on cycle day 26, I got my blazing positive on cd36.

Every calculater I've found tends to base dates off a 28day text book cycle with ovulation being perfectly perfect and the ones that allow you alter your cycles still don't take into account late ovulation or PCOS etc.

I booked in for an early scan based on online calculations putting me at 7 weeks and wanting to know all was OK.

At the scan it was confirmed the gestational sac and yolk were present but the embryo was not. No further information was given other than a sad tone and a leaflet that tells me I should wait a couple of weeks and take another test to see if it's still positive.

I was heartbroken.

I'd made them aware in my notes (which I don't believe they read) that I have very irregular cycles and pcos. Their dates DO not add up with mine. Dating my pregnancy from the first date of my last period is inaccurate and I tried explaining this when booking the appointment but was reassured I would still be within a window of being able to have an early scan which is detectable from 6 weeks.

The results show that my gestational sac measured 7.8mm and the yolk was present. This size suggests I'm 5 weeks and a few days which then ties in with my late ovulation and explains why nothing was visable but the yolk and sac. At 5 weeks you'd be lucky to pick up an embryo even if it is a vagingal ultrasound.

Having spoke to my midwife this morning who was upset that someone didn't go through dates with me at my scan given it was an early scan she said that it doesn't mean anything other than I could have just been far to early and that the yolk being present and the size of the sac is a positive thing in itself. That only the next couple of weeks will tell. I'm booked in for another in just over two weeks where I'll be able to know for sure as at that stage it should be detectable (7+ a few days by my calculations)
The down side is, if it is a loss, I may not bleed, the tests may still come back as positive and until the scan nothing can be confirmed.

I was just wondering if any ladies have had a similar experience with an early scan and everything turned out just fine??

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Intimes22 · 28/07/2022 17:15

Me !! I was rescaned which showed a healthy heartbeat he's now a demon
toddler
Good luck

Hopefullhopeful · 28/07/2022 17:32

Really??? Was it just too early? Did you also have to wait two weeks?

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coastergirl · 28/07/2022 17:42

It's happened twice with me. I'm a late ovulator! I've had one sad outcome and one happy, although with the miscarriage they could see very little at all and I miscarried a couple of days later. Yours sounds far more like my success story. He's just turned 3 and is a complete whirlwind. Good luck.

CupidStunt24 · 28/07/2022 17:44

Not the same situation as such with regards to PCOS etc, but I had a miscarriage back in Feb, had a couple of cycles and then fell pregnant again, had a couple of scans at the EPU so that they could prescribe me some medication etc. At this point my periods had fallen into textbook 28days. First scan from last period was 5w6d and there was just a sac and yolk sac. They made it very clear before the scan started that at almost 6wks, they were not expecting to see an embryo, they just needed to locate a pregnancy in the right place, which they did. They gave me no information regarding dates etc, just said it's what they would expect to see at 5-6wks. So it absolutely is possible that what you've seen at 5wks by your dates is perfect, and I really hope when you go back nearer 7 you get the news you are hoping for ❤️

Intimes22 · 28/07/2022 17:52

Hopefullhopeful · 28/07/2022 17:32

Really??? Was it just too early? Did you also have to wait two weeks?

must have been but he actually came a few weeks early so who knows

Hopefullhopeful · 28/07/2022 17:58

Honestly ladies, I can't thank you enough. I trying to stay realistic and balanced but I just feel so sure about my dates. I wish they'd have taken the time to just ask me some basic questions so that they'd understand that I wasn't at the date they'd come to think I was.

I really appreciate reading these.

I'm sorry for the losses but I'm so happy you both have continued to have beautiful bubbas!!!

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LorW · 28/07/2022 18:01

I have PCOS and had the same thing, went in when I was supposedly 6 weeks, only saw a sac, was told to expect the worst, went back and there was a heartbeat, now she’s a happy 6 month old. That 2 week wait between scans were by far one of the worst times in my life.

Hopefullhopeful · 28/07/2022 18:37

Yes!! This was only yesterday and I already hate that I can't force everything to stop u til then. Going to work, putting on a face etc, it all seems such a big ask at the moment.
I'm so grateful for the positivity reading these.

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RidingMyBike · 29/07/2022 09:13

I was unexpectedly pregnant and had PCOS. My first scan was booked by the GP receptionist who was a bit 'computer says no' about deviating from the LMP method of calculating. In the end I got my GP's support as I'd been cycle tracking and it was really really obvious when I must have got pregnant - if they'd used LMP the scan would have been at least five weeks too soon! It was a total pain as it also affected the due date as they were so insistent on LMP.

Baby is now 6yo!

Hopefullhopeful · 29/07/2022 14:17

Yes!!! I was telling everyone I spoke to that my pcos means I don't run to the average 28day cycle and my ovulation is all over the place etc etc. That being said I KNEW when I ovulated and so was 99.9% sure of when I must have conceived which was putting me far earlier than what they were.
It's incredibly frustrating with so many of us with PCOS that they don't think to check different dates. Like you said, because the system said so then that MUST be correct.
🙄

I can't wait for the 11th to hopefully prove them wrong.... 🤞🤞🤞

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