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Broken relationship and pregnancy

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AB2022 · 28/07/2022 12:47

Over the weekend me and my boyfriend went on a night out. At the end of the night I caught him with drugs and walked off. As he had the keys to my house I couldn't go home so went to a friend's. I found out the next day he went back to my house and damaged my front door and was arrested. He's told everyone we've broken up but we've not had one conversation about this as he refused to talk to me.
Then a few days later I found out I was pregnant. I managed to get in contact with him to tell him and he's told me I only have 1 opinion and that's to have an abortion. I have no idea what to do. I've been through an abortion because and it was the worst thing I ever went through. I have no family to support me, but his family have been amazing and really want me to keep it.
I still love him and care about him and don't want to ruin his life like he's saying. I honestly don't know what to do because I still want him back and to have his support but there's been no communication about anything. I feel like I can't admitt to anyone I want him back.

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ttc2603 · 28/07/2022 14:05

AB2022 · 28/07/2022 12:47

Over the weekend me and my boyfriend went on a night out. At the end of the night I caught him with drugs and walked off. As he had the keys to my house I couldn't go home so went to a friend's. I found out the next day he went back to my house and damaged my front door and was arrested. He's told everyone we've broken up but we've not had one conversation about this as he refused to talk to me.
Then a few days later I found out I was pregnant. I managed to get in contact with him to tell him and he's told me I only have 1 opinion and that's to have an abortion. I have no idea what to do. I've been through an abortion because and it was the worst thing I ever went through. I have no family to support me, but his family have been amazing and really want me to keep it.
I still love him and care about him and don't want to ruin his life like he's saying. I honestly don't know what to do because I still want him back and to have his support but there's been no communication about anything. I feel like I can't admitt to anyone I want him back.

Don't feel pressured to have an abortion just because he said so, if you don't want an abortion and want to keep the baby then do that but it's however you feel. If he's not being supportive about it then why would u even want him back? He should know the risk of having unprotected sex (if your not on birth control or some sort) so he should think about that before he tells you to have an abortion it takes 2 to tango so I'll say do what you thinks best but if he can't even be supportive at a time like that then I don't know why you would even want to get back with him. Have a think about it and decide what you want to do.

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AB2022 · 28/07/2022 15:24

I have been on the pill but due some medical issues I have it's only around 60 percent effective for me which he knew about. So apparently that's my fault

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ttc2603 · 28/07/2022 15:31

AB2022 · 28/07/2022 15:24

I have been on the pill but due some medical issues I have it's only around 60 percent effective for me which he knew about. So apparently that's my fault

That's not your fault at all! What was your reaction like when you found out u was pregnant? I think it's best for you to really think about all the positives and negatives if you think of any and then think what you think is the best for you as pregnancy is such a beautiful thing and u shouldn't be made to feel like you have to get rid of it. Hope you figure something out soon, wishing you the best :)

Merryclaire · 28/07/2022 16:50

Sorry but he sounds like a right dick and would be a bad father and partner. If you want the baby, it sounds like you have a lot of support from family, so you can do it, but I wouldn’t rely on him or particularly want him involved to be honest.

However much you love him, you need to look at him objectively and realise that he’s not a good person to have in your life.

Best of luck.

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