Don't feel anything...

[faithtrustandpixiedust]

We've just found out I am expecting our second DC after only 1 month ttc, I am roughly 3.5 weeks so still extremely early.
I just don't feel like I thought I would and I'm struggling with that quite a bit.
When we found out with our first DC i was a lot further on (almost 9 weeks), I was ecstatic, couldn't think about anything else and couldn't wait until we could tell everyone. This time around though I just feel incredibly anxious, nervous and a bit numb which isn't what I expected at all. I don't feel that instant connection that I felt when I found out first time around and I'm constantly expecting AF to appear any minute.
Is this normal? Will it fade? I know it's still very early days.
DH is so so excited and I'm desperate to feel like him but I'm terrified that I won't.

Completely normal OP! Sometimes I think we expect to feel a certain way so it can be a shock when we don't.
Give yourself a little time to let it sink in, I'm sure it'll come!

I found out I was pregnant with DC2 as well, but ours was a complete shock. My first reaction was 'sh*t' as was my DPs but now we're so excited and cannot wait for our little boy to be a big brother! Our first scan is next week.

Of course if you still feel like this at your booking app, it's worth mentioning to your midwife but hopefully by then you'll be okay.

I think with DC2 you know what to expect more as well which can sometimes be worse than the unknown with pregnancy!

Good luck op x

Thanks for your reply @2020firsttimemum
I think because it's happened so fast it's caught me off guard a bit, DC1 took 10 months to conceive so I suppose I just assumed it would take a while this time round too. Definitely know what you mean by knowing what to expect more, I was blissfully unaware of pregnancy and labour with DC1!
Hope all is well with your scan!

Exactly, it's almost unexpected even though planned!
Your hormones will be all over the place too, so I'm sure it'll settle soon!
Thanks lovely x

Totally normal! I'm 29 weeks with our 3rd, and still feel a bit like "it seemed like a good idea at the time!" And freaking out a little about having 3 😂
But, I promise you, your heart grows and you love baby2 just the same as baby1. It's just a little less exciting because you've done it all before! I've found focusing on the amazing gift of a sibling your giving baby 1 to really help. X

Thankyou that's really reassuring 😊
Yes I am looking forward to seeing DC1 become a sibling although I'm already feeling guilty about her having to share me and DH 😂 there's always something!