Anyone else waiting for their baby? 39+2 and looking for some company...

[Danani]

That's it really...
I'm 39+2, bouncing on my birthing ball, eating dates, drinking raspberry leaf tea, going on daily walks, eating spicy foods.....you name it! But no signs of baby coming or imminent labour, and getting slightly impatient now.
If anyone else is (im)patiently waiting on their little one's imminent arrival, this is the place to keep each other company. :)

Oh @Danani, sorry things aren’t working out the way you’d hoped with birthing your little one 😩 I can’t believe they still hadn’t found you a bed, how can they expect you to be waiting alone on a chair for all those hours?! Really hoping you have a bed now and have managed to get some rest at least. Wishing you all the luck for your induction, meeting your beautiful baby will make it all completely worthwhile ❤️

How are you this morning @Danani I hope they have a bed for you and have started the process! Not long and you will be having newborn cuddles 🥰

@Danani just to give you a positive induction story - I was induced via pessary and then sent home. I was back less than 3 hours later and had my baby less than 15 mins after arriving 😅 No further intervention or tearing and a really easy delivery. Best day of my life!! Ask if you can have the pessary and go home?

@Danani been there done that. Get the epidural. Lots of love.

Morning all and thank you for your kind messages! Literally made me feel better reading them!

After waiting for ages and ages and ages yesterday, at 1am we were told no bed and that we can go home, which honestly sounded so good after 16 hours of waiting! So went home (drive was only 15 min), got 5-6 h of sleep (slept like a baby!) and were asked to go back this morning for monitoring.

So we’re here again today but feeling much better now that I know what to expect and also managed to get some rest in the comfort of my own home/bed!

Unfortunately, the situation today looks to be much the same - no beds and many women waiting for a bed. However, I am just grateful baby girl is doing fine, movements have been fine, and my headspace is much better today. I know what to expect, and I feel better equipped to deal with things, yesterDay I just felt panicked and flustered and completely blindsided. So that’s my update! I will keep you lovelies posted! Really really appreciate your encouragement and positivity, it really has helped me immensely! ❤️

@Danani glad you’re feeling better today! Did they manage to get you a bed?

Glad you managed to get home last night @Danani, you definitely needed that rest after the day you had. Great to hear baby’s movements have been fine, that’s really reassuring. Hope things have been better today and they’ve managed to find you a bed.

I’ve just ordered a spicy curry for dinner.. hoping that may start things off! 😂🙈 I guess even if it doesn’t (which is likely I imagine) at least I’ve had a tasty dinner 😊

@Danani how are you doing this evening? Hope the induction process has started and you’re on your way!

Hi all! I’m hoping to join you all. I’m 39+4 weeks and after being anxious about birth for the last 9 months, now I really want it done! I’ve had no show and I’m pretty sure I’ve had no braxton hicks (although this is my first so I may have missed them). But I am pooping A LOT and getting period like cramps (although that could be down to my pelvic girdle pain) and so have everything crossed it happens soon.

Hi @SquigsC! It’s nice to see some further familiar names joining the impatiently waiting thread 😊 I’ve read the pooping a lot can be a good sign, as your body can ‘clear out’ in preparation for labour. That combined with your period pains must mean things are heading in the right direction at least! 🤞🏼 Still nothing here, 39+3 and not even so much of a twinge 😂😖 just desperately wanting to meet baby now, can see me going overdue at this rate!

Thinking of you @Danani, hoping everything went smoothly for you and you are enjoying those gorgeous newborn cuddles right now 🥰

Hi all,

Baby Shirls arrived yesterday, a girl, all happy and healthy 😎

Hope yours arrive quickly too!

@ShirleyPhallus congratulations! What lovely news, so glad you didn’t end up having to wait too long to meet her 🥰

39+5 and no sign yet... I want this baby out of meee 😅

Congratulations @ShirleyPhallus ❤️

@W00p same here for me too, 39+5 today and desperately wanting labour to start! Consultant appointment tomorrow and I know they’re going to start discussing potential induction, which I’d rather avoid if possible! Have you had any niggles that labour is near for you yet?

Over a week overdue here. Seeing midwife tomorrow.

No signs of labour at all.

Feeling very depressed about the whole experience. Was quite excited last week but now just feel very down about it.

Not finding the constant barrage of messages about the whereabouts of the baby very helpful either. And all the advice.

And all the empty platitudes. This morning someone said I shouldn’t feel like a failure for not going naturally into labour. A failure. Very helpful thank you.

I was not prepared for how miserable this period would be.

Thanks everyone 🥰

@MidnightPatrol you have all my sympathy, my first pregnancy went 2 weeks overdue and I was honestly more stressed about that because of all the messages asking where she was. She did turn up eventually but I really feel for you.

@ShirleyPhallus

Yes I am already feeling quite depressed about the whole thing - the last thing I need is constant questions and ‘advice’ from others.

I’ve had some family members message me more or less daily for about three weeks now.

I think I’d have enjoyed some sort of convalescence home, like a five star hotel with no phones or internet. Just relaxation and quiet until the birth.

I currently feel like a watched pot, and with every day that passes I get less relaxed and more stressed and anxious.

I suppose I need to reverse this if I want to go into labour (Oxytocin levels and whatnot), but I feel like I’m too far down the path now.

I felt great a week ago!

@MidnightPatrol totally understand this, I felt like this 100%. Id be thinking “I’ll tell you if she’s here!!! Leave me alone!” And yes, the constant messages made me feel more stressed at a time when you know you’re meant to be relaxing cos otherwise the baby might not come etc etc - it’s a horrible circle.

I ended up messaging the groups and saying “no news, I’ll le tYou know when she’s here” then putting them on to mute and archive so I couldn’t see the replies

@ShirleyPhallus

The archiving messages is a great idea!

The only people I feel able to talk to without being enraged are other friends with small
children - as they know the drill!

I suppose the annoying messages are at least a distraction from the physical annoyances of being so pregnant. I’m currently sleeping about an hour at a time, carpal tunnel so bad gripping anything hurts, and I can’t walk very far due to pain / needing the toilet every 15 minutes.

This baby really needs to arrive sooner rather than later.

I wonder how often overdue women have complete breakdowns.

@MidnightPatrol I feel you! I’m 40+5 today and have absolutely no signs of labour. I’ve been losing my mucus plug but that’s it and I know it doesn’t mean anything. I had a sweep last week that didn’t work and have another tomorrow but I’m not feeling hopeful for it. I really wanted to avoid an induction but hopefully they will book one in for me soon as it’s really starting to stress me out going so far over due. Hope it all kicks off for you soon!

@MidnightPatrol I can really sympathise with how you are feeling. I too have been feeling excited for weeks, hoping he’d arrive from around 37 weeks. I can feel that excitement being replaced with frustration now, which is such a shame, and as you say, definitely won’t help with getting any oxytocin flowing. I’ve had 4 people message today and ask if there’s any sign of baby. I know people are only showing interest, but it’s really starting to get on my nerves. If it continues, I will be replying firmly that I will let them know when anything happens, so no need to keep asking daily. I don’t think people realise how annoying it is.

I also have terrible carpal tunnel like yourself, it’s been my most irritating symptom, my hands are so numb yet painful that I can hardly grip anything and the amount of things I drop on the floor and then have to attempt to pick up is getting so annoying at this late stage when I’m not exactly flexible.

Really hoping your little one decides to make an appearance very soon, you’re a week ahead of me and I can only imagine this impatience getting so much worse as time goes on, so I feel for you.

How’s everyone doing? Feeling disheartened here after my consultant appointment yesterday, was examined and my cervix is only at a bishops score of 4, which when I’ve read up means I’m unlikely to go into spontaneous labour any time soon, and that it’s likely an induction would also fail if I were have one now. They have pencilled me in for induction the end of next week at 41 weeks, really didn’t want to be going down that road but feeling like it’s probably inevitable now.

@SantiagoSister sorry you are feeling disheartened! I’d probably try and avoid what the internet says! I had my second sweep yesterday at 40+6 and was still only 1cm with a bishops nose score of 3, which is exactly the same as my first sweep the week before. I went up to hospital for reduced movements and I’m now in the process of an induction. I’ve just had the first tablet put in, but hadn’t heard of the induction being likely to fail if the bishops nose score was low. You never know, the sweep might work! :)