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Should I go to this wedding?

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Sunnydayz · 27/07/2022 12:01

Hello!

34F. First pregnancy, due date 1/8/2022.

A good (work) friend is getting married on Saturday 30/7/22. Other good (work) friends of mine are going, these are people that I enjoy seeing and choose to spend my time with. They have been so supportive and lovely during my pregnancy, I’ve seen them much more than my “usual” group as the usual group are very party/alcohol oriented.

I’ve been on maternity leave since 24/7/22, I feel really well, I have a cute dress I can wear (or send back if not needed!)

The wedding venue is around 30-40 minute drive from where I live. 20-30 minutes drive from the hospital I plan to give birth in.

My partner 37M will be working that day so I was planning to drive myself there and back. Most likely everyone there will be drinking, so I’ll leave when I get bored of watching everyone get drunk.

I really want to go as will be last get together with the girls before baby comes. I’m also quite excited for the food… pork belly and sticky toffee pudding ☺️

I told the bride ages ago that I might miss her wedding due to baby/child birth, she said come if you can, no stress if not. Just let her know, she’ll probably be able to find someone to give my meal to on the day!

The bride messaged me last night asking if my partner would be coming, he wasn’t invited initially but she had a spare meal, which I think she wanted to give to someone else, so I asked him if he was was working, he most likely is so I told her that, and he looked at me and asked “are you actually going?!”

I have a midwife appointment today so will ask her what she thinks but any thoughts?

I guess worst case scenario is I go into labour while at the wedding and am in too much pain to drive myself to the hospital…Is driving in early labour a big no? I think I have a good pain threshold. I have one friend who doesn’t drink so she could drive me in an emergency?
There is a local hospital there…. But me and partner would be disappointed if not at local hospital (where I usually work at and feel very comfortable.)
I might ruin my friends wedding?? She seems pretty chill about it all and wants me there (I’ve offered to give up my space/meal so she can invite someone else) but I would be mortified if my waters broke or I cried out during ceremony!

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Doesiteverhelp · 27/07/2022 12:19

Unless you have a bloody show or contractions or feel unwell the night before I'd go!

Honaloulou · 27/07/2022 12:20

Totally! As long as you leave of your don't feel right, you'll be grand.

MolliciousIntent · 27/07/2022 12:20

I'd go! Your plan seems fine, if you don't think you're ok to drive, get a cab.

abblie · 27/07/2022 12:22

I went to my cousins 37 weeks pregnant and had a great time left after food and speeches

If you can go GO but if its too much chill at home xx

courtrai · 27/07/2022 12:23

Unless something happens in the meantime I'd go; first labour is unlikely to be speedy so you'll have fair warning

bravotango · 27/07/2022 12:40

I'd go personally! Could you take a cab there/back to remove the complication of driving if labour starts?

littlemissalwaystired · 27/07/2022 12:44

I'm a midwife and I'd say if you feel well then go, and have fun! You can always leave if you start feeling uncomfortable😊 odds of you going into labour on this one specific day are slim, but if you have paper notes take them in the car just in case.

VeryEmptyArms · 27/07/2022 13:16

I stopped doing things around the time you are now, and quickly got very bored and started doing things again. First babies can really take their time coming!

As long as you feel well, don't over do it, and pay attention to any signs of early labour I don't see any problems.

RagingWoke · 27/07/2022 13:33

I'd go, just have your bag and notes in the car just in case but the chances of going into labour at the wedding are slim. Obviously if you don't feel up to it on the day or are having contractions give it a miss.

I went to a wedding a few days before giving birth with dc1 and was invited to one on my due date. I'd mentioned to both that I might not make it and they were fine (the due date wedding I was originally a bridesmaid but stepped down from that when I told bride I was pregnant).

babyjellyfish · 27/07/2022 14:02

If you still feel up to going, I would go.

It's not far away from the hospital if you do go into labour.

startfresh · 27/07/2022 14:02

I'm 30 mins or more from my birthing hospital. Also, you're more likely to go over than under for your first, so you could find yourself sitting around, bouncing on a gym ball for two weeks after the wedding and still not getting anywhere!! (And desperately regretting missing the wedding to be sat at home, alone)

If you want to go and feel up to it, then go!

Cas112 · 27/07/2022 14:29

Definitely go if you don't have any shows in the days leading up 😊

annlee3817 · 27/07/2022 14:35

I went to one 25 mins away when I was three days overdue, I only stayed for a few hours (evening invite), but glad I went :)

annlee3817 · 27/07/2022 14:36

Just make sure you take your green notes with

Ribeebie · 27/07/2022 14:43

Absolutely go and enjoy yourself as long as you feel well enough.

Coffeaddict · 27/07/2022 14:47

I'd go. I went to a big 40th birthday party an hour away from my house 3 days before my due date. Was great fun and lovely catching up with people.

If showing signs of labour then back out but otherwise go and have a blast

BusySittingDown · 27/07/2022 15:00

I would go as long as you feel well enough!

Worst case scenario - you go into labour at the wedding, surely one of the other guests could give you a lift to hospital? Not everyone would be drinking. Also, labour is usually slow - your DP would probably have plenty of time to pick you up (even if he's working I imagine he would leave work if you went into labour at home). Also, taxi or Ambulance (if absolutely desperate - I'm talking if things progressed very very quickly).

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 27/07/2022 15:09

I would go. I was 11 days over with my first, and with my second my waters broke at home and I was able to drive myself in about 90 minutes after they broke, so if something happened I'm sure you could drove yourself home if you left immediately.

My second was breech, but I'd started getting contractions by the time I arrived at hospital, best of luck!

Hotenoughtoburnasausage · 27/07/2022 15:15

First dc? Enjoy a last trip out! Dd was 10 days late. We lived in Newcastle and went to Harrogate on my due date!!

mummyh2016 · 27/07/2022 15:19

I'd definitely go! Don't worry about your waters, pop a sanitary towel on to put your mind at ease though if you are getting anxious about it. My first contractions in my labours took my breath away but wasn't enough to make any noise - the minute you feel anything make your excuses and leave. If you don't go you'll only be sat at home regretting not going.

needasleep · 27/07/2022 15:21

I would say go I went to a wedding when I was 10 days overdue and booked into hospital the following day for an induction.

bowchicawowwow · 27/07/2022 15:29

I'd go and have a great time. Stick your hospital bag and notes in the car with you.

I went into labour with DC3 whilst out on my own with the other two DC. I managed to drive us 10 miles back home whilst in the early stages of labour. Bit of a tense drive as I was worried how quickly things were going to escalate but all was ok in the end.

20viona · 27/07/2022 18:11

Absolutely go!

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Sunnydayz · 27/07/2022 18:12

Thanks for your replies and stories! Really looking forward to the weekend now, if baby doesn’t come first! (Which wouldn’t be a bad thing either….) 😊

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miltonj · 27/07/2022 18:24

Labour doesn't usually happen like that. You probably won't let out a huge unexpected scream! It's usually mild contractions that build up over hours. Obviously not all the time, but likely with it being your first as well.

I'd make sure you have your hospital bag and notes in the car and not push yourself to stay up later than you'd like. But go and enjoy yourself, you could still be pregnant in over two week time!

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