I was induced at 39+4 due to concerns about reduced movement. My son was only 6lbs when he was born, so my doctor thinks it was undiagnosed IUGR. As a result I will be monitored very closely at the end of this pregnancy and if the baby stops growing I'll have to deliver early.
I had an epidural once the contractions started to intensify, which I really recommend. Unfortunately my body just wasn't ready to give birth and I ended up having to have a C-section because my baby was getting tired.
It wasn't at all how I had hoped to give birth, and I felt quite sad about it for a few weeks afterwards, but I'm OK with it now.
Ultimately, I think that most women who don't want an ELCS have this idea that they are going to give birth in the birthing centre, or at home, maybe in a pool, with dim lights and relaxing music, and they will just breathe their baby out. In reality, it doesn't work like that very often. Whilst it's a good idea to have a plan about how you'd like to give birth in an ideal world, I think it's also a good idea not to be too wedded to it. The most important thing is that both you and the baby are safe and healthy.
Last time I was really hoping to go into labour spontaneously, stay at home for as long as possible, then have an uncomplicated vaginal birth without an epidural. I ended up with a balloon catheter, having my waters broken, a syntocinon drip and a full day in labour before having a C-section at nearly midnight when I was exhausted and dispirited. Thankfully, after a couple of weeks, and once my post birth hormones had calmed down and my scar was healing well, I was able to appreciate the fact that I had a beautiful healthy baby and was recovering well.
This time, I would also like to go into labour spontaneously, stay at home for as long as possible, then have an uncomplicated vaginal birth and an epidural only if I feel I want one. But I am also more realistic than I was before. And I also know I don't want to spend a day in induced labour if it looks like it's not going to work. And I also very much do not want to put my baby at risk. So I'm going to go with the flow a bit more. I'll go for regular appointments and growth scans to check the baby is OK in there. I'll bounce on my ball and do lots of walking and everything I can think of to try and get the baby to move down into the right position. And I'll accept that it is to a certain extent out of my hands. If my doctor decides that we need to get the baby out and my body is showing absolutely no signs of going into labour spontaneously, I might just go for an elective C-section because I already know what to expect. If my body looks like it's not far off going into labour spontaneously, I might give the induction a try, but with a view to moving to a C-section much earlier if it looks like it isn't working.
The main thing for me is that I was treated really well by the doctors and midwives and I felt supported. I hope the same is true for you, because it makes all the difference.
Good luck!