So frustrating! I come from a reasonably large family and have two brothers and two sisters. I wanted a third child and DH was fine with it so here we are pregnant with #3. We found out at 12 weeks it was a third girl as had the harmony test.
DH told his mum and she basically ignored it. He phoned her a few days later and they had a chat and she said she was worried because she has two sisters and they don't get on, it would have been fine though if it was a boy. I can understand her sisters not getting on with her though, the Dali Lama would struggle! I don't always get on great with one of my sisters but that's family.
Later we went to visit DH's grandad and she warned us he might not have a great reaction. I told him to phone before hand because I didn't want to hear it , when he phoned his Grandad he did say he didn't understand why we decided to have another baby... and then my DH pointed out we were just copying him having three girls and they both laughed it off.
MIL has recently said to me she would never have 3 children, but if she had been able to have more than 2 she would have had 4 so there was never one left out. I just laughed and said 'haha don't tempt us or we'll go for another.' (We won't).
But it's just really annoying.
My family all fine, happy and supportive. My brother has three girls and my sister just had her third baby. My other siblings have two each.
BTW, we are both employed, have two lovely daughters who adore his family. We can financially support them, our house is big enough and we don't ask them to do any childcare (they happily volunteer as extra pair of hands sometimes which is great but we don't rely on it). So I don't get the big issue!? Really has put a downer on things!