Am I over reacting?

[Toria33]

I am 10 and a half weeks pregnant after 6 miscarriages with my husband, we are both also asthmatic.
our new nextdoor neighbour has taken to parking outside our house and leaving for work at 7 in the morning. As it’s summer we have our bedroom window right above where they are running their car from 3-5 minutes every morning. I keep getting in coughing fits right after and telling hubby I can smell petrol. He says it’s psychosomatic and he can’t smell anything. I’m getting worried about SIDS as this has been going on 5 days a week since I was 4 weeks pregnant.
should I say or do anything or am I over reacting?

You can't say anything. I sympathise regarding the anxiety but you can't stop your neighbour doing this.

But they leave the space infront if their house open and they have two spaces behind the house.. can we move our car to the space?

Of course you can. Presumably it's free for all parking and not private spaces outside the front of the houses so park where you want to.

You can't complain about your neighbour going to work, no. You're understandably worried, but this won't effect baby, not in your womb or when they are here.

There are private spaces, their spaces are out back, ours are out front. And there there is the equivalent of one car space in front of each house, they leave the one in-front of theirs open.

Please don’t misunderstand if they got in and pulled away I would not care, it’s the 3-5 minutes of engine running that us the worry

So just to be clear, where they are parking out the front, is this in a private space or on street parking? Because if it's the former then you can politely request that they don't park there, if it's the latter then you can't.

But either way, it's not going to affect your baby so please try not to overthink this.

that is public technically, (although everyone else in the street uses it as dedicated) but it’s not them being there really it’s the 3-5 minutes of running the engine right outside our bedroom window

Let me guess - first baby? 🙃
Just close your window if it bothers you that much.
It's going to be a long 6 months...

By the time baby arrives it'll be winter and your windows will be shut anyway so I wouldn't worry about that

Obviously missed the bit about 6 miscarriages.. so technically not

Pregnancy can be a really worrying time for anyone let alone when you've had previous losses. I think you're understandably hyper aware and anxious of every prospective 'danger' but honestly this isn't going to hurt baby. I do t think you have grounds to ask them not to park there as it doesn't sound as though it's a dedicated space, however maybe a jokey light hearted comment re the cost of fuel and engine running?

Not a designated space even

Sorry typing on phone!

Bit of a shit comment considering what the OP said in the OP.
I would just park in the space.

Just checked out air voc analyzer in our bedroom it’s gone from green to amber since they moved in(it reads air pollution) . Swaying towards moving the car

Genuinely I'd move your car or close your window or whatever will make you feel more comfortable - it's clearly worrying you, and that's the main thing.

I'd take a deep breath (preferably when he's not starting his car 😂) and think that walking by a road of traffic is likely to have the same sort of air and that you're thinking is coming in through the window, and that's something that isn't advised against and thousands of people are exposed to, I don't think there will be any harm - mention it to your midwife though if you're feeling really worried.

It’s 32 degrees in our bedroom at night I don’t think I can sleep with it shut, will move the car

For your own sake OP I would sort something out, whether its move your car so they park further away or close your bedroom window and leave the door open with other bedroom windows open or get a fan, whatever. This is affecting you physically if its making you cough (and thats enough reason to take action imo. Your asthma is probably already affected by environmental factors like the pollen count and humidity, and I think hormonal changes can sometimes affect us too but im not a medical person and this is an added element you clearly dont need). Its also affecting you mentally and making you worry and you absolutely dont need that right now. Take the steps to make you feel better.
DP not coughing doesnt mean its all in your head, asthmatics have different thresholds and scenerios that cause reactions. And even if it is all in your head so what, its very understandable given what you have been through, if some simple steps help easy that worry just take them.

Of course you can. They probably have no idea it’s bothering you, but if you put your car in that space, they’ll have to use one of the others available to them.

You’re not being unreasonable at all. Completely aside from the fact that you’re pregnant, having an idling engine is selfish of anyone to do - regardless of where it’s parked or waiting. Idling pollutes the environment, damages people’s health, and wastes precious resources - oil.