I'm pregnant!

[Em1159110]

Hello all, new to this! I already have my beautiful 12 year old from my previous relationship. My now partner (5 years on/off) lives down south. We discovered a few days ago I'm roughly 5 weeks pregnant.

It's something we always wanted and talked about.....but now... I don't know how to feel? Is this normal. One minute I'm happy, then next I'm completely freaking out. He's been reassuring me and we do make a good team, but there is so much ahead of us. First of all, he will need to move here (again). I haven't told anyone and that's another worry I'm facing. How to tell my child who has been so used to it just being us? She's so protective. Is it normal to feel so much anxiety and doubt. Any advice or chats would be amazing.

Yes I think it's normal! I'm 20 weeks Pg now with a surprise baby. I was honestly delighted but spent the whole first trimester thinking that it would be no bad thing if it didn't work out, financially we would be better off and what if I'm ruining my older DC life, and what about my career, I don't like the newborn stage so why am I doing it again etc...
Those thoughts have gone now and I already can't wait to meet my new little person.

Yes it’s normal to worry and feel anxious I’m 30 weeks and still feel anxious. Will he be moving back soon? I’m sure your 12 year old will be so happy my 12 year old is

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

If the relationship has been on and off, and there are practical concerns about parenting together, such as DP not living in close proximity yet, I would also feel anxious about the future. Can you attend counselling to discuss any anxiety and concerns?

Omg, this!!! I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my 4th. First with DF.

We wanted a child together, felt like we had enough room, love, money and resources to make it work. We tried for a few months for this. Then when it happened I completely freaked out. 😂😂 It's settling down a bit now, but I definitely still have moments where I'm like "what am I actually doing??"

It caused some sleepless nights at the beginning.

Is there no way to reply to messages individually? Damn. I have so many questions for you all. Is there another form of platform to be able to do this ? My partner is already making arrangements to move here.

You can quote and reply like this, if that's what you mean?

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