Help!

[Anxietgirl]

I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant. Please don’t judge me but…
I had sex with two men a day apart, the first guy we didn’t have full sex, he kinda put it in but I wouldn’t call it sex (sorry tmi) he didn’t cum inside me or anything and I had sex with another man who did cum inside me and I’ve had sex with this man multiple times therefore I believe he is the father but I’ve read that precum can get you pregnant even though it’s a small chance and now I’m so worried the first guy could have possibly got me pregnant and this would be the worst thing ever because he was a big big mistake!!! What do you guys think? Im so worried and don’t know what to do or think. Only way I will really be able to tell is when baby is born, this being because the first guy is Asian and the other guy is white and i am white.
I’ve really messed things up and Im terrified. The first guy doesn’t know I’m pregnant but the other guy does know. I don’t even know if I should say anything to the Asian guy because it’s not likely he is the father and also we aren’t on good terms he’s a dick tbh, wish I never went near him but these things happen. What would you do if you were in my shoes? I literally feel so sick with anxiety worrying about it 😭

Are you in a relationship with the one you hope is the father? It’s most likely he is, but as there is still a risk it’s the other guy then, if you intend to keep the baby, you need to be honest.

Thank you for replying. Yes I’m in a relationship with the guy I hope is baby daddy. I’m terrified to tell him because I know that will be the end of our relationship.

More likely to be the guy who ejaculated inside you, but it's also possible that it's the other guy.

the guy didn’t even put his penis inside me fully cos he couldn’t. He didn’t cum inside me instead I ended up giving him a hand job (tmi I know!)

I think it's extremely unlikely to be the handjob guy but no one on MN can tell you for 100%

Most likely the one you had full sex with, can’t say for 100% tho

I think you haven’t got much option here. It would be a lot worse not to tell him and for him to get invested and find out later on.

I know it’s going to be difficult to confront and it may be the end of the relationship - but if you tell him now it’s possible he will get past it and forgive you. If he ends things, then at least you have been honest and not strung him along.

If you don’t tell him and it turns out to be the other guy’s baby, he’ll be heartbroken and I don’t see how you could get past that if you lied to him throughout the pregnancy.

At the end of the day, if you’re going ahead with the pregnancy then the child comes first, and will soon be the most important person in your life. So try to focus on that. Time will heal wounds, and your baby should know who their father is.

Whatever happens, your child is for life, your relationship may not be. But you will move forward.

Best of luck.

Maybe so but we have three children together already so it’s not as simple as that for me.