Finding it really hard to cope with early pregnancy

[drV]

Sorry for the really long message but I am really feeling miserable

I have had 2 MC in the past and now 8w pregnant.. finding it really hard to cope emotionally as my mind keeps ruminating what happened in the past. Both MC s were around 10 weeks and never had foetal heart beat.

This time it looks a bit better, we saw a heart beat at 6w and I am put on progesterone+aspirin to give a better chance for the pregnancy to survive. But still scared as pregnancy symptoms come and go.. emotionally I feel so lonely, I haven't shared the news with my mum and dad due to the bad past history. Dad is going through chemo atm and I don't want to add to their misery if something goes wrong. They both live overseas and hence not even possible to visit them as often as I want to. But keeping this a secret is making me miserable 🥺

DH has been a blessing and been a rock solid support since the day we got to know about the pregnancy( he is a great guy in general, I am lucky in that matter!)

I have completely lost my appetite and just don't feel like eating anything. But eating 3 meals a day diligently as to not put this pregnancy in risk. Today in particular has been really hard and I have cried so many times since morning. I am generally a very cheerful person but seeing me cry so much has made DH extremely worried too!

Just finding it super hard atm.. sorry for the moan, but also looking for some suggestions.. how did you/ how are you coping if you have gone through something like this ?! Thank you in advance for any suggestion 😓

I can completely sympathies on how you're feeling. I've had 4 loses and am currently 9 weeks 1 day, I'm also on progesterone. I know how hard early pregnancy is and I think I'm very similar to you on how you're feeling, it's so so so hard and I wouldn't wish the worry and anxiety on anyone.

I'm sure your parents would be happy to support you, despite what you're going through. You really don't have to go through this alone! I'm also open to chatting if you need someone that can understand how you're feeling in these early days.

I seen a heartbeat at 6w and this past Saturday at 8 weeks 4 days. I was told that once you have seen a heartbeat your chances of miscarriage does lower. Could you book some private scans to reassure you? I really hope you're okay and I'm glad your partner is a good support. X

Hi OP

im 7 weeks and had a MC at the beginning of the year so I am anxious also but saw a heart beat last week - such a relief. I don’t really have symptoms but I know it can vary person to person but I am very consumed by thinking about the pregnancy!

However It sounds like you’re doing all the right things so be gentle on yourself over the next few weeks and just take it day by day - that’s the advice my family gave me. It’s lovely your partner is so supportive too

My sister had a pregnancy which was high risk as she was older - it all went so smoothly, she had progesterone too, but she also said it was because she spent lots of time listening to spa like music and doing pregnancy meditation and basically really switched off from life (as much as possible) and just surrounded herself by lovely things right from the beginning. There are some nice YouTube videos on meditation in first trimester if you search - I’ve been enjoying these also and feel that whatever happens it’s lovely to do that and try to close your eyes, focus on breathing and relax

I wish you all the best! You’re not alone xxx

Thanks for you message 🥺 exactly, I wouldn't wish this anxiety upon anyone.. so sorry you had to go through MC s and you are struggling too.. just hope everything goes well for us this time 🤞🏻

I am considering to talk about to this to my elder brother, we gave a good emotional bond. Hoping he might help me cope 😓

Thank you for your lovely words 🤗 yes, I guess meditation might help, will try it. Thank you so much and all the best to you too 🤞🏻

@drV
So sorry your going through this feeling, I'm in the same boat has 4 miscarriages never got past ten weeks, I'm now 16+1 days pregnant and the anxiety is still with me, I work in a hospital and the girls in ultrasound r great worked with them 20 years and they give me a check when I'm at my worst, I only told my folks last Sunday and oh only told his today, the more that know the worse I'm feeling, but going to go round for a wee check tomorrow to settle me.

If you need to chat just pm me on here I can try and help ease ur worries.