Another accident

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So I had my son three years ago, was an accident but best thing to happen to us now even thought at the time it was a massive shock. We have had another accident and I tested positive today and I was actually really excited as is my partner but now I am panicking a bit about the realities of having another baby.

I am self employed so will only take two weeks mat as I will lose clients otherwise. I suffered very badly with pnd last time and we have zero support.

But I do really want this baby. Can anyone reassure me going ahead will be ok? Im full of worry.

Anyone?

If you want this baby you can do it! Try and take things a day at a time. I am pregnant with our 4th who was also an accident, I even took morning after pill at the right time which failed. Like you, after the initial excitement I was also filled with pure dread, panic and worry. I also felt I can’t do this but I can say I am 16 weeks now and those feelings have lessened. Pregnancy can bring a range of emotions and I can honestly say for me the more supported I have been and feel the better I have been. I suffer from extreme anxiety and my Gp referred me to the perinatal mental health team and I can honestly say just knowing they are there IF I need it has helped me feel supported and less worried about everything and so far I haven’t even needed any extra input. I would recommend speaking to your Gp or midwife and letting them know how you feel and about your previous PND so they can give you the support and referrals IF you need them, that’s not to say you will need them. Here to chat if you need it x

Thank you a lot, your message has helped a lot. I will talk to the midwife when I have my booking appointment xx