How to cope with twins after already having a child under 2??

[mumlife18]

Long story short i’m expecting twins.
i wasnt sure what to do at first, went for an appointment to get rid and couldnt go through with it!
I’m also a twin myself so I spoke to my mum as ofcourse she has experience.
and she thinks i wont cope.
Has anyone had Twins with a child already between 1 and 2. I’m just looking for advice??

Another thing i wanted to add is i suffered post natal depression after my first.(not where i had thoughts of harming her. Is there support or anything i can do to prevent this happening again?

Hey! I don't have any experience of twins myself. My uncles are twins and my nan was a twin but that's about it.

I just wanted to say though that just because your mum has said you won't cope, doesn't mean that it's true. When someone tells you that you can't do something before you've even tried, I think it's quite unfair. Of course she has experience and it won't be easy but if you want the babies then please don't be put off by your mums advice.

Lots of mums feel they wont cope but they do, you are already a good mum if you are wondering how you will manage because it means you care. In regards to the PND I'm sure you will get extra support because you've suffered with it before. Talk to your midwife if you decide to go through with your pregnancy and let her know your worries. These people are here for you and at the end of the day you are just trying to be the best mum you can be.

Good luck and be kind to yourself xx

You absolutely can do it if you want to! It will be tough at times, but believe in yourself and have a support network.

I've seen your other thread and hope you're doing okay ❤️

My oldest turned two a couple of weeks before I had twins. I won't lie, it was really difficult at times. The first few weeks are a blur, but then something got easier, which was great. And then a few weeks later, something else got easier. That's how I managed, just being grateful and relieved each time something got easier. If you can afford it, get help, whether that's childcare or help around the house. Or there's an organisation that may be able to offer some help if they're in your area. Homestart I think they're called? And see if there's a twins club in your area. People there understand, and will offer to hold one baby while you feed/change the other. And look up the Twins Trust charity. All sorts of help there.

All the best. Be gentle on yourself, and ask for help when you need it. Don't stay silent if something's not right. (And think of all the cute twin photos you can take!)

I have a friend who had 2 sets of twins under 26 months. They moved close to one set of parents, ditched the buggy for the first 2 immediately they found out so they were very used to walking everywhere. I’m sure it was pretty hideous, but they are grown up now and the most lovely family.

My twins were born when my eldest was 20 months.

You can do it - you'll have to be very organised and it won't be easy or fun for a while but you can do it. Message me if you want to chat. I never had much help but I'm here to tell the tale and things are mostly ok now, a few years later.

A friend of mine got pregnant with twins soon after the birth of her 1st child. She had 3 under 1 years old!
I think it was mental but her husband was very hands on and they got through it. All 3 kids are very close and never lacked company growing up.
Your Mum's comment isn't very helpful!

I had twins when my eldest was 19 months. Of course it was hard, but I still found having twins, or a second baby in general, easier than having a first baby- at least I knew what I was doing.

I had no family around, my husband went back to working away during the week when they were 3 weeks old. I breast fed for 3 hellish weeks and then abandoned that for full on formula. I popped both babies in bouncy chairs and bottle fed both at once.
The first year is a blur but we all survived. Your mother is horrendously out of line for undermining you like that- people cope with having batch’s off young kids, and they end up being a fabulous wee gang of play mates x

You'll cope. I had a just turned 2 year old when my twins were born and 6 years later we are all still here 🤣 seriously though, it's hard...there'll be tines when everyone will be crying including you but it's so worth it. Now mine are all best pals, they fight like all siblings do but they always have a friend to play with. Don't listen to people who tell you that you won't cope...you will there's no other choice! Congratulations and all the best xx