Hello! I’m expecting my second baby in the autumn. My previous labour I was hoping for the ‘ideal’ water birth in a birth unit, low intervention etc. But in the end everything went wrong and after a long attempt at labour I ended up with an emergency c section. I had a haemorrhage afterwards but I don’t think it was a major one. I was so exhausted - they had wanted to do forceps delivery but she was too low and I was grateful to have avoided instrumental delivery - that c section was a relief. Recovery was ok. But now I have to decide whether to try for a vbac or go for an elective c section. My hospital/midwives have been really clear that I can decide either way. I think my preference is for a c section (I have asked for this but can change my mind), but I am frightened - last time it all happened so fast and I didn’t really make the decision, so trying to make it not under emergency conditions is difficult. Im particularly concerned about not being able to pick up my toddler, recovery after a second surgery, (vainly) about whether my stomach will look awful after two sections (after the first one it’s wobbly and skin is looser, but not too bad and my scar is very small) and dying (though I know this isn’t likely)! positives are - I won’t have the difficult birth experience of first time round, it will be a more controlled situation and I will avoid possible damage from vagina delivery - it seems sensible to keep all the damage in one area. Really grateful for any advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation.