Feeling Like I have no Friends During Pregnancy

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Just wanted to see if anyone had the same feelings and it all turned out well in the end.

I'm pregnant with my first child and super excited. However, I am the first out of my friends group to have a baby and I already feel alone. There are events that will be happening when DS is <6months that I will probably be saying no to attending, mainly because they would involve 2 nights away to attend, different country, and I'm already not comfortable with the idea of leaving him.

I already get the vibes that my friends don't understand that feeling and probably think I'm being super OTT or dramatic. I guess these differences are going to be common now as this is our first time where our lifestyles have very dramatically been different. Just to note, these could just be my own assumptions and maybe they don't feel that way at all.

I am just wondering if anyone else had the fear that they are going to lose all their friends during pregnancy and how did it turn out after DC was born?

I was the same as you when I had my first. I made sure I went to loads of baby classes and there I ended up making good friends who I am still close with now. I found it nice making new friends who are currently in the same place in their lives. Over the next couple years my older friends all started to settle down and have babies too, so we became closer again.

I feel the exact same as you do, pregnancy has felt so lonely for me also. I'm hoping once the baby's here that'll change as I'll try to go to mom groups and meeting new people as they will understand as they're going through the same thing. If u need someone to talk to give me a message as it would be nice to have someone to talk to if you need it :) hope you feel better soon!

I'm so sorry you're feeling down about it, totally understand how you feel. I think it's probably really hard to understand what a pregnant person goes through unless you've been there yourself, so it's not surprising you don't feel as though your friends quite 'get it'.

I'm still in my first trimester and haven't told anyone yet, but I am the first out of all my friends to have a child - and any friends I do have, live quite far away so I don't even see them as often as I'd like anyway. I'm also the only one who is married and the only one interested in a 'settle down and have some kids' kind of lifestyle anyway. I am paranoid that I'll simply lose all my friends once baby is here because I'll just get swept up in life and find it too hard to relate to them anymore.

I hope that none of this is true and we maintain lovely relationships with our friends! We'll use these forums in the mean time haha, and hopefully wen babies come there will be lots of social events, groups and other activities to, fingers crossed, meet some new people at too. Sending hugs, wishing you all the best.

Admittedly there are people who I don't see as much now I have small children, but I do have a fairly active social life, mainly with people I have met since having children.

There will be like minded people out there looking for new friends. It's a new chapter, just embrace it if you can.