11 week pregnant and want to cry non stop, emotionally overwhelmed... how can I stop?

[anniz91]

This is my first pregnancy and I feel like it's hit me with a ton of stones right now. I feel completely overwhelmed and feel like I am not ready to be a mom and if I make a good mom? I have zero experience with children. I haven't even gotten my shit together at work, I'm stuck in the middle of a probation and worry about what people will think about my pregnancy. I feel that I haven't got anything ready for a baby ... I don't owe a house, I don't have a good / decent car. Everything seems to be falling apart right now and I can't really seem to truly get myself happy. I had this perfect pathway set up before having a baby but I feel like it's not going to plan at all.

I just burst out crying my eyes out randomly.

I am really sorry OP (and I mean this kindly ) but like EVERY woman who ever lived (without a private income) we all felt the same..

... and yet somehow.. (for me) despite episodes of looking down the back of the sofa for bus money and wondering how I could both be at work AND picking them up from school/netball/karate ... we got to the end with 2/3 at Uni .. and currently living their nest lives ..

My advice would be :
ALWAYS welcome their friends
ALWAYS say 'yes' unless 'no' seriously inconveniences you or is actually dangerous or massively illegal..

I fucking LOVED the teenage years (and I had 7 with DHs 4... go with it .. try and remember what it was like when you were young .. and no.. I don't have loads of money and an easy life .. we earn £50k between us and rent..

@Eddiesferret ok thanks

Hormones! They're evil!

Hi @anniz91
How are you feeling now? I’m 11 weeks also and have been feeling the same as you!

If it makes you feel better on paper I’ve got my shit together but I’m still terrified of messing it up and dreading telling work/taking time off for maternity. I think it’s just one of those things that you can’t ever be truly ready for until it happens (at least that’s what I tell myself!). Don’t be tough on yourself, you’ve got this!