Burst in fertility after having first baby?

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Is the burst in fertility after a first baby real or just a myth? If it's a real thing how long does it last? I've heard of people concieving naturally shortly after their first child was born, even if their first took years of TTC and/or IVF but don't know if this is common or just a really rare occurence. We are in that position with no diagnosis for why it was so hard to concieve othere than age (I'm now 41). Now I'm wondering whether to try again for a sibling as soon as we are able (allowing for the necessary safe time after my C-section) or just give up hope of another one and get rid of all the newborn and maternity stuff as soon as we're done with it. I think I would be happy with one since I never even thought we'd get this far but if there were no barriers two would be ideal. While a larger age gap might be better for me, taking my age into account wouldn't leave us with much option other then to try as soon as possible. Not keen on more IVF though, both due to cost and the stress of it so will probably give up if IVF remains our only option to have another.

Would be keen to hear any positive stories from anyone managed to concieve their second one quickly despite having problems with the first.

Congratulations on your baby! It took me 13 months to get pregnant with my first which I know isn’t very long but it felt it at the time and then I had unprotected sex once when she was 12 weeks old and got pregnant with baby number 2. It wasn’t planned but I was delighted/nervous but all was well. They are 10 and 9 now and get on really well (90% of the time!).
It does seem to be a thing! I’d hold on to your maternity and baby stuff and see how it goes 🤞

I know several people for whom this happened. Why not try for a year, in a low-pressure environment given that you’d quite like a second baby but aren’t desperate for one, and if nothing happens, then you give away the baby stuff at that point?

Took us 18months with ds, were about to start ivf as i was told my eggs were not good quality.
Took 3 months with dd 2 yrs later and we had hardly 'tried' that month either in comparison to the schedule/efforts we went to with ds!

I was always extremely fertile but suffered from recurrent losses. I had five early losses in nine cycles - some of which I'm not sure even count as real cycles. My sixth pregnancy worked out.

I am now 13 weeks pregnant with no.2, from my first cycle trying again, with - touch wood - no losses.

I know plenty of other people who conceived their second baby easily after massively struggling to conceive their first, including one woman who did 4 years of IVF and conceived her daughter from her one viable embryo, only to conceive her son naturally at the age of 40, at 6 months postpartum.

My first took two years and four rounds of IVF, my second was a surprise, conceived 18 months after DD1 was born. Wasn't trying, just not taking precautions and bingo.