Any advice on how to stop my work related worries.

[Worryingtryer]

So we as a couple have recently moved to trying to conceive using a sperm donor now. However this is not something I am openly talking about with my workplace or colleagues ( after all is it actually any of their business). I'm very excited and we are going forward with natural cycle insemination in Aug, but I'm finding myself still excitedly awaiting this but also plagued with such anxiety and worries over the prospect of it happening and then how to cross the bridge of informing my workplace. They are aware that my partner has a very small chance and by very I mean less then 1% chance of conceiving naturally. The place I work at is a small group of employees like 12 of us we work in a nursery and 1 of the members of staff leave on maternity end of September another who is due Jan so will leave December time. I have heard comments been made about don't you dare get pregnant cause we can't afford to have more staff off on maternity and how they make remarks about me still living at home (I'm 28) but have a stable partner who lives with me here of ( 12 years may i add ). We moved back to my family home to save some money and work on enjoying our lives without the stress of bills. Granted we have found some debt still but have worked out a plan to rid ourselves of all the debt in a 6/7 month time frame and still have cash to spare. So I guess my question is how can I still continue been excited but stop stressing others opinions. Am I wrong to be putting myself and our wants first with the timing lining up for where we are at currently in our lives and relationship after all im getting no younger the clock is ticking away

Being blunt, f*ck em, it's just a job!!!!!

They employ women of "child bearing age", they have to appreciate that this is what will happen! I was also so afraid of leaving work colleagues in the lurch or short staffed, but don't put off your plans. Why should the other 2 ladies get to do this but not you?!

Respect to you living with your family and partner though, I couldn't. That would be stress enough for me. Have you a plan to move out so you can at least have a place before your little family grows?

your pregnancy concerns you and your partner, and noone else! if now feels like the right time and you're conscious of time ticking away, then you need to go for it. when you tell your work, they will have plenty of time to find a replacement, that's not your responsibility. A job is a job, you only have one life! :)

I think I'm worrying about all the whispers behind my back and how they are going to affect me. I'm trying to get my mind frame ready that these people don't matter, but as you can understand when I spend more time with them through my working day then with my family. They will begin dragging me down.

I do have a plan yes. If all been well and it works we will be looking to move out of the family home just after Christmas to prepare ourselves as financial we could afford to now but just think why currently when there's not a current need. Save as much money as possible right now for the longer term future