When did you try again after miscarriage. Just had my third miscarriage 😞

[Skylark1990]

Hi. I've just had my third miscarriage in a row at 6+3. I had bleeding on Wednesday so we went to the hospital and had the pregnancy confirmed via scan, we saw the tiny baby and a strong heartbeat. They prescribed me progesterone pessaries as I'd had two previous losses (both very early, at 4+4 and 4+6 I think). Unfortunately I kept bleeding and lost the baby on Thursday, scan on Fri confirmed my womb was empty 💔

I feel so so sad and also numb and at the moment I just want to try again. It's been a long 7 months of trying and 3 miscarriages in that time. I have a beautiful DD who is nearly two and who we conceived straight away without any issues. So I'm finding this all very confusing. I have been referred for tests but I think there will be a long wait (over 3 months). I'm also still breastfeeding but not very much. I've been told to take progesterone from 2/3dpo if I get pregnant again before I see the specialists so I'll do that. My progesterone was 32 when I had 21 day bloods done after the second loss which they said was ok but I think maybe on the low side?

Anyway, when did you try again after loss? Is there any reason to wait a full cycle? Any experiences or advice appreciated x

Oh bless you. I had two miscarriages in a row, one about 5 weeks and the other 11+ weeks, days before my scan. It's very sad and I feel for you.
I miscarried New Year's Day 2020 and fell pregnant February cycle and had my boy end of November. I also then fell pregnant again when my boy was 6 months old and have another baby both pregnancies with no issues. Perhaps take yourself away for a few days, relax and try not to stress. You obviously have no issues falling pregnant; just try to rest and relax once your trying. Best of luck x

Sorry for your loss ❤️. I don’t think there’s any reason to wait except for more accurate dating, and you’ll probably have early scans anyway that can do that. If you don’t feel like you need a break, go ahead. I had three losses in a row before I had my son and the doctor said the most important factor was being able to get pregnant in the first place. I hope it works out for you soon x

Im so sorry to read this, sending you virtual hugs 💕.. I really struggled with my miscarriage and gave myself a 6 month break, then became pregnant 2 months after trying to a healthy baby. i know everyone is different and you may probably want to start again straightaway. My advice would be to listen to your body and try when u feel physically and mentally ready.. For now looks after yourself 💕

@Skylark1990 so so sorry for your loss 💔there are no words good enough right now but sending you love and strength and positivity ♥️

I had a mmc at 9 weeks on 24th May. The baby sadly stopped growing at 7 weeks and I took medical management. I was desperate to be pregnant again, and the nurse told me that waiting is only so that they can be sure on dates, as it can be anxiety provoking to see you’re behind what they would expect.

I didn’t wait, I started tracking ovulation as soon as the bleeding stopped and ovulated 23 days after the mmc (a week later than I usually would).

I got my bfp last week which puts me at 4+2. I’m absolutely terrified something will happen again and am constantly watching when I wipe, but for me I couldn’t wait and needed to know that I was trying again.

there is no wrong or right way, as long as you’re doing it for you ♥️

Thank you all, that's really kind to reply. Im just in such a weird mood, so sad but also feel really numb too. I definitely want to try again quickly I think. Thank you xx

@Guybrush did they tell you to do anything different/ did you try anything differently when you had your DS? Like progesterone or aspirin? X

Ready for the saga....

Vitamins...take as many as you can....

I'm currently 29 weeks following ( in the past 3 years) 8 early mc's, 1 ruptured ectopic pregnancy where I lost my left ovary and left Fallopian tube, aged 41 now. We got pregnant this time round following my recovery from surgery for the ectopic.
This is my second child.
I was recommended a book called ' it starts with an egg', never actually bought it but some ladies in an ivf group recommended it ( we started the ivf process when we found out we were pregnant with our little jumping bean that I'm cooking away).
Continue to try, don't give up, secondary infertility is so common.
I've also heard people suggest acupuncture before ovulation. If your not using them, buy ovulation tests so that your actually maximising your fertile days.
Pre-seed or similar lubrication, for fertile days.
Vitimins wise- ubiquinol, I used the conceive plus ovulation support and fertility supplements, omega 3, aspirin 75mg daily, pomegranate juice and Brazil nuts ( aids in uterine lining)
Obviously the progesterone may help too x

Good luck x

Sorry for your loss, I had a chemical pregnancy in March last year and then another miscarriage in October last year, we just kept trying after the bleeding stopped. Only did the deed twice in November then fell pregnant 6 weeks after the miscarriage, now I’m 30 weeks pregnant 💕 i hope you get your rainbow baby soon 💕

OP, I'm really sorry.

I was referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic after my third miscarriage, and it was incredibly helpful. They found issues with my blood clotting, a uterine septum and scarring from previous miscarriages and dealt with it all. I had a successful pregnancy four months after my surgery at the RMC.

I had miscarriage in November then march didn't have a period and was pregnant April all going well im 12 weeks now 😁

Sorry - sent that too early, but I really would suggest you talk to your GP and ask for a referral to an RMC if you possibly can.

Sorry for your losses, @Skylark1990.

I had three miscarriages: one at six weeks in January 2020; I conceived again in April 2020 and miscarried end of May (technically it was a blighted ovum so never progressed, but I had the MVA procedure then). I conceived for the third time in December 2020 but sadly miscarried in February 2021 at nine weeks, after having seen a heartbeat. Testing showed that the embryo had triploidy.

I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic but all the tests showed no issues; I think I just had an unlucky run of bad eggs. I started taking high dose co-enzyme Q10 alongside vitamin B complex (and folic acid and vitamin D, of course). I fell pregnant for the fourth time at the end of August 2021 and started taking 75mg aspirin and progesterone pessaries as soon as I found out I was pregnant.

No idea if any of the supplements helped, but my little boy was born healthy in May this year 😊

So sorry to hear about the trauma so many of us have been through. I have had 4 miscarriages and now I'm 42 I'm unlikely to have another chance. The doctor was extremely pessimistic about my chances. Thank goodness I have 2 children from years ago now aged 10 and 6. I find it incredibly difficult to talk about the miscarriages. After the first one I did tell work and take time off. After the second one I had to be I hospital. But now with third and fourth I just haven't managed to tell anyone apart from my husband. I just went into work and carried on like normal even though my heart is broken. My sister has just had her third baby. I am happy for her and am visiting saying congratulations but inside feeling dreadful. Like I just want to lie down and not exist. I'm just keeping going for my two children.

So sorry for your losses OP :( take time to process everything!
We didn't wait to try again after our miscarriages, it's only so they can date the pregnancy more accurately but after 3 miscarriages I'm sure you would have no issues getting an early scan at an EPU
I was the same as you, had one baby and then had 3 miscarriages after, the only thing I did differently on our 4th try was take low dose Asprin from the moment I knew I was pregnant- you can buy it from shops easy, 75mg size, take 150mg a day.
That pregnancy resulted in my son and I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with our 3rd!

I saw a fertility specialist and he prescribed progesterone. I also took aspirin but the doctor said he didn’t think it was helpful. I don’t know if those helped or whether it’s just random chance. You tend to start trying everything after a while! Best of luck 🤞

Thank you all so much for your kind words and wisdom 💓

I'm so sorry you are feeling so lost and defeated @Starstrucyx it's so so hard. I truly hope you feel better soon and that you will one day soon have your rainbow baby in your arms 💐🌈

It's crazy how common it is to struggle second time round - interesting that you both had a baby no problem but then 3 miscarriages between no 1 &2 @EllieJai44 @itssquidstella ❤️ really happy for you that you got there in the end.

@Guybrush thank you for coming back on my question. @Carol1980 thank you, gosh what a saga you have been through, congratulations on your pregnancy, I'm so happy you got there - that must have just been so incredibly hard to go through,you must be so strong. I've heard of that book and know about the supplements it recommends. I was taking coQ10 but stopped - I'm taking omega 3, a really good prenatal with all the b vitamins and will get Brazil nuts and pomegranate juice!

@Cdoc congratulations on being 4 weeks, I really hope this pregnancy goes well for you! 💓💕🤞 Im sure it will 🙂

@HerculesMulligan I have actually been referred but I think it may be a while before I'm seen 😞 hopefully soon tho

So the consultants at the hospital who I saw when I was miscarrying said that from my next BFP I should take progesterone straight away so I'll definitely do that. I am not sure about aspirin as I've had some stomach lining issues in the past and I feel it may cause those to come back, so doctor said not to do it until the blood clotting tests have come back so I really hope that isn't the issue! She said as I've had one baby and it was a completely healthy pregnancy it's unlikely that it is a blood clotting issue. 🤞 I have a decision to make about whether to stop breastfeeding now / before we TTC again and also whether to TTC again soon or wait 2 or 3 cycles. Blegh, so hard to know. I wonder if the MCs are because I'm run down from pregnancy, breastfeeding, working full time and parenting... Maybe I need to focus on getting my stamina up again. Although to be fair I was feeling much healthier recently and less tired.

I think I forgot to say before but I did also actually have covid the week before the miscarriage on Thursday, so again this could be something to do with it. It's so so so hard not knowing what caused it.

Thank you all again xx