Doubts after miscarriage

[Hope15022023]

Hi again. Took today the medication to start the miscarriage as I was diagnosed with blighted ovum at almost 8 weeks. The dr was sure of the diagnosis, considering all the US and the HCG levels. She also said there appeared a hematoma gor formed. But I feel emotionally drained and desperate feeling now that I should have waited more and seeing now some stories I didn't find before... Didn't get all the details at the last US as I was already in a very bad shape mentally ... can't help but feeling maybe it could have been ok if I waited... Didn't have any bleeding before the medication, even if the hcg was going up very slowly (from 10800 to 14900 in 5 days at 7w+5d) and the US showed each time an empty sac... I will never be able to know certainly and now I don't know how I'll live with myself...

Very sorry you’ve had to go through this.

It’s difficult to accept the reality. But your doubts are just your mind playing tricks on you, and a normal part of the grieving process.

The doctor was certain this pregnancy wasn’t viable. You might have heard of the odd miracle or case where dr was wrong - but those are rare cases and would be extremely unlikely to have been the case in your situation.

But this was sadly not a miracle baby. The sac was empty - no amount of waiting would have changed that. You had to proceed due the information you were given.

Please don’t agonise over your decision to start the miscarriage. You did the right thing. There is nothing you could have done to prevent this outcome.

Take heart in the fact you can conceive. This won’t affect your chances of having a healthy baby next time.

Sending you best wishes at this time, and I hope you have your miracle baby soon.

@Merryclaire , thank you so much. Your words helped a lot. Yesterday I was quite overwhelmed as reality struck. But I'm starting to cope with it. All the best to you too.