Why doesn’t anyone reply to my threads at all?

19andhighrisk · 2022-07-01T02:32:03+00:00

I’ve came on here to connect with other expecting mothers who are in a similar situation as me ,most pregnancies are not high risk and not with high beta hcg,yet no one replies to my posts..I feel like I’m doing something wrong or posting in the wrong place or either no one can relate at all.

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SeaToSki · 01/07/2022 03:35

Hi, maybe its the time of day/night you are posting.

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19andhighrisk · 01/07/2022 04:01

Ove

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mocktail · 01/07/2022 04:07

Are you not in the UK? It's 4am here.

Flederjo · 01/07/2022 04:13

With respect, I replied to your first thread and you never responded 😐

If no one is replying that generally means that no one who reads your post when you post it has experience with that problem. I replied to 2 of your posts to bump them up a bit. You can't force people to respond.

Why don't you, instead, search for previous threads about this, read through them and hopefully get some some info.

Actually, I searched for you, here's the link to lots.of threads:

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Babyenroute · 01/07/2022 05:07

I did see your thread but had no advice to offer as couldn't even remember getting my HCG MoM tested.. I didn't have the 12 week screening though as had NIPT which is more accurate for detecting chromosomal abnormalities. How long do you have to wait until your 20 week scan?

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19andhighrisk · 01/07/2022 11:09

I am not forcing people to respond ..it’s just odd that people aren’t relating and I am worried about my results shitless which is why I went on here..to find people with the same issue.

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Flederjo · 01/07/2022 11:24

But it's not odd...... if the people reading your post haven't had that issue they can't really help so much 🙂Plus I gave you a list of threads with people who did have the issue so you can find more info!

LaFloristaCalista · 01/07/2022 12:05

Posting at 4 in the morning surely doesn't help. Most people are sleeping!

BiscoffSundae · 01/07/2022 12:25

It might be the time like others have said although sometimes I post and equally get no responses if it’s something important I then try a different board that usually helps to get a response as some are quieter than others

Tyrtle · 01/07/2022 12:46

It looks like you’ve had two other threads? One where you had a response and another where you had a response but you then didn’t return to the thread.

Sorry you’re feeling so anxious at the moment; it’s an awful feeling. Have you got anyone irl to talk to?

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19andhighrisk · 03/07/2022 14:59

It is odd buddy..it’s not that rare of an issue that literally no one has or had it in the past ,plus with all those threads that’s a lot of people that related to those people who posted the threads why would there suddenly be less people with that same issue

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Tyrtle · 03/07/2022 16:49

19andhighrisk · 03/07/2022 14:59

It is odd buddy..it’s not that rare of an issue that literally no one has or had it in the past ,plus with all those threads that’s a lot of people that related to those people who posted the threads why would there suddenly be less people with that same issue

I had read this twice, it was hard work to figure out. I’m saying this with kindness and only because it’s the point of your OP; if you want more people to respond to your posts maybe try and be a bit clearer. (Sorry!)

What’s making you believe there are now less people with the same issue? Is it because you‘re not experiencing lots of replies to your posts? Because, as pp have pointed out, that might have more to do with other factors: the time of day that you’re posting, the fact you’re not replying when people do respond (and maybe your posting style could be clearer - sorry again).

19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 03:00

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 03:01

Oh that might be it then ,I’m new so I don’t really know how this works that was mainly my question .

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 03:08

Sorry it wasn’t you who said people aren’t having the issue I have which is why I get no replies, so I apologize for that.I was trying to reply to a person who said so,I was basically trying to say there’s been threads in the past on the issue with plenty of people who related, so why would there suddenly be less of us with this issue if that makes sense.

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ChagSameachDoreen · 04/07/2022 08:47

Your posts are always really randomly structured and hard to read. That puts people off responding. You can also come across as demanding and aggy.

pedropony76 · 04/07/2022 08:59

I’ve seem your threads and just haven’t responded because I can’t relate at all. I do agree with the comments about your posting style as I also found it a bit hard to get whatt you’re saying.

I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time but I hope all will be okay at your next scan

User34352515 · 04/07/2022 09:44

OP are you actually 19? If so that explains the posting style, as it would be slightly unreasonable for anyone here to expect a teenager to post in full sentences with capitalisation and punctuation (some do but many don't). I really hope you have a good support network in real life for your pregnancy and that there will be good news at the next checkup. Early pregnancy is shit, and unfortunately the only thing to do in many cases is to wait it out.

Also MN is nowhere near as busy now compared to 3-4 years ago. Back then there was a lot of traffic in the Pregnancy board and every thread got replies. They lost a lot of users over the years due to site changes and questionable moderation policies so most of the side forums are now dead and only threads in AIBU (Am I being unreasonable) get replies. If you start a thread that's not in AIBU then most people won't even see it, but if you start one in AIBU then it's usually going to attract nasty and combative replies. Can't win really!

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 15:28

ChagSameachDoreen · 04/07/2022 08:47

Your posts are always really randomly structured and hard to read. That puts people off responding. You can also come across as demanding and aggy.

Lmao there’s nothing to understand but the values of the hcg Ms Aggy this isn’t English class

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 15:37

User34352515 · 04/07/2022 09:44

OP are you actually 19? If so that explains the posting style, as it would be slightly unreasonable for anyone here to expect a teenager to post in full sentences with capitalisation and punctuation (some do but many don't). I really hope you have a good support network in real life for your pregnancy and that there will be good news at the next checkup. Early pregnancy is shit, and unfortunately the only thing to do in many cases is to wait it out.

Also MN is nowhere near as busy now compared to 3-4 years ago. Back then there was a lot of traffic in the Pregnancy board and every thread got replies. They lost a lot of users over the years due to site changes and questionable moderation policies so most of the side forums are now dead and only threads in AIBU (Am I being unreasonable) get replies. If you start a thread that's not in AIBU then most people won't even see it, but if you start one in AIBU then it's usually going to attract nasty and combative replies. Can't win really!

Yes I am 19.Thank you this is the only logical reply so far Lol.That would make much more sense,explains why there’s less posts on my issue now than back then. Also yeah who even cares about a few grammatical errors ,if they don’t get my post it means they didn’t have the beta hcg MoM test or don’t know what it is period it ain’t that confusing .

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 15:39

User34352515 · 04/07/2022 09:44

OP are you actually 19? If so that explains the posting style, as it would be slightly unreasonable for anyone here to expect a teenager to post in full sentences with capitalisation and punctuation (some do but many don't). I really hope you have a good support network in real life for your pregnancy and that there will be good news at the next checkup. Early pregnancy is shit, and unfortunately the only thing to do in many cases is to wait it out.

Also MN is nowhere near as busy now compared to 3-4 years ago. Back then there was a lot of traffic in the Pregnancy board and every thread got replies. They lost a lot of users over the years due to site changes and questionable moderation policies so most of the side forums are now dead and only threads in AIBU (Am I being unreasonable) get replies. If you start a thread that's not in AIBU then most people won't even see it, but if you start one in AIBU then it's usually going to attract nasty and combative replies. Can't win really!

Nasty and combative replies ?Yikes that’s the last thing you need in a stressful situation..

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Jaaxe · 04/07/2022 19:04

I think a lot of people want to reply but if they haven’t experienced it then such replies aren’t necessarily going to be useful to you. I tend to reply if I have experience or knowledge around what they are posting about. I have just read your previous posts, when is your 20 week scan? Hopefully once that’s out the way you’ll get the reassurance that all is ok. Pregnancy is an extremely anxious time even when all tests are normal so it’s understandable you feel like this, I’m super anxious in pregnancy and assume everything will go wrong. For a little reassurance, ive 3 children, low risk for one, high risk for 2 of them and now I’m pregnant again with our 4th and this time they’ve said I’m even more high risk….I had a bumpy few pregnancies but all my children were all born perfectly healthy and I recovered ok following each one, best advice I can give is to listen to your consultant/ obstetrician as they have the most knowledge in this, ask all the questions you are worried about and take it a day at a time. Hope you are ok x

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19andhighrisk · 04/07/2022 22:54

Jaaxe · 04/07/2022 19:04

I think a lot of people want to reply but if they haven’t experienced it then such replies aren’t necessarily going to be useful to you. I tend to reply if I have experience or knowledge around what they are posting about. I have just read your previous posts, when is your 20 week scan? Hopefully once that’s out the way you’ll get the reassurance that all is ok. Pregnancy is an extremely anxious time even when all tests are normal so it’s understandable you feel like this, I’m super anxious in pregnancy and assume everything will go wrong. For a little reassurance, ive 3 children, low risk for one, high risk for 2 of them and now I’m pregnant again with our 4th and this time they’ve said I’m even more high risk….I had a bumpy few pregnancies but all my children were all born perfectly healthy and I recovered ok following each one, best advice I can give is to listen to your consultant/ obstetrician as they have the most knowledge in this, ask all the questions you are worried about and take it a day at a time. Hope you are ok x

Hey thanks for this.I never thought pregnancy would be this stressful to be honest,I thought my trouble to conceive would be the last of it but nope lol.I am currently worried for my 20 week scan because I read so many stories where people have normal results then suddenly the baby has no kidneys or other severe issues ,on top of everything one of my values was 4xhigher than normal in the first trimester scan and they told me it has more to do with the placenta than the baby but I can’t stop thinking that it might mean my baby is defective or something .It really sucks and I pray things will be okay.

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