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I lost my baby

52 replies

Katherine · 01/11/2002 13:10

Yesterday was a really horrible day. After a few days of spotting I had horrendous pains all night. It was only when I realised they were welling up and dying away in a regular fashion that I realised they were contractions. I would have been 12 weeks today.

While on the phone to the MW my waters broke and soon after I passed the baby, not big enough for 12 weeks but I could see exactly what it was. I then started bleeding. The ambulance took half an hour to find me and then it took another hour to get to hospital. Had to take the children with me although they loved the ambulance they caused chaos in reception when we got there. Had to sit in a chair in reception for 20 minutes, bleeding heavily while they tried to find me a bed. Everntually the paramendics put me back in the ambulance and took me to A&E only to be sent back to the delivery suite again.

After 2 hours I was finally admitted (so much for the 999 call) and after that the staff were lovely. I was very painful and gruesome but I have to say that going through the whole thing in that way was easier to deal with than the D&C following my missed mcs when one minute I was pg and then next not. The only awful bit was overhearing the sonographer saying what a waste of time it was giving me a scan and having to wait for ages with pg women squeezing past me. Why do they do that? She then told me I should be grateful I had my 2 children. I know she meant well but....

My body did a pretty good job of sorting itself out so they decided against theatre which was a relief. I was kept in overnight but am now home at last, a bit sore and shaken but determined to try again soon. I just wish I didn't have to go through the first trimester all over again. However they have promised to scan me every few weeks to try to make it more bearable.

Sorry if this upsets anyone but had to get it out of my system.

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grommit · 01/11/2002 13:17

Katherine - I am so sorry - what a terrible ordeal

Enid · 01/11/2002 13:23

Katherine, have posted on the other thread but just wanted to repeat how sorry I am x E

sobernow · 01/11/2002 13:24

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kkgirl · 01/11/2002 13:26

Katherine

So sorry to hear your awful news. How awful that the sonographer was so insensitive, even if that was what she felt she should never have said that to you.
Take care

bossykate · 01/11/2002 13:37

katherine, so sorry to hear your news. hope you are feeling better soon.

Joe1 · 01/11/2002 13:41

Katherine, Im so sorry, take care x.

jessi · 01/11/2002 13:47

Katherine, I also posted on the other thread. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself,love Jessi x

viksy · 01/11/2002 13:47

My thoughts are with you Katherine. Take care.

mears · 01/11/2002 14:04

So sad to read your news. Thinking of you and your family.

Marina · 01/11/2002 14:16

Katherine, I am so sorry you lost your baby. Thinking of you and especially sorry to hear how insensitive the sonographer was. That kind of thing is so unnecessary. I hope very much that you get good follow-up this time. Take care of yourself and post here as often as you want - no need to apologise for expressing how you feel. All too often friends and family don't seem to want to hear it one-to-one: friends on Mumsnet can be a godsend in the bad times as well as the good.

Ems · 01/11/2002 14:36

Sending you lots of love Katherine xx

GRMUM · 01/11/2002 14:40

So sorry to hear this sad news.Take care of yourself .you can talk on here whenever you need to, I am always very touched by how supportive everyone is on mumsnet.

jodee · 01/11/2002 14:50

Really sorry to hear your news Katherine, please take care of yourself and try not to dwell too much on those insensitive comments - keep posting. xxx

thumper · 01/11/2002 14:52

Lots of love Katherine

JanZ · 01/11/2002 14:53

I'm so sorry to hear your news. I hope that writing it down for us HAS helped. The sonographer's comments were uncalled for - and presumably none of her business, as I am sure that there were good sound medical reasons for checking you out. And above all, it is not up to her to judge how how you should feel, just because you have already have other children.

When you're feeling better and more "up for it", it might be worth (gently) feeding back to the hospital that they could do with some improved communication training on their staff - especially sonographers!

Tillysmummy · 01/11/2002 14:53

Katherine lots of sympathy and hugs. Agree with the others, ignore insensitive comments. x

hmb · 01/11/2002 15:00

Poor you, I am so sorry. And that sonographer is an insensitive idiot who should know better. It is such a rotton thing to happen to anyone, regardless of family size

batey · 01/11/2002 15:00

Thinking of you, take extra care of yourself.xxx

prufrock · 01/11/2002 15:18

So sorry to hear this news Katherine- please use us to "talk" to as much as you want

SueDonim · 01/11/2002 15:20

So sorry to hear your sad news. Do take care and give yourself time to recover.

threeangels · 01/11/2002 15:25

Katherine,

I am very sorry for your terrible time. Please take care of yourself. You are in my thoughts and God bless.

Azzie · 01/11/2002 15:40

Thinking of you xxxxx

SoupDragon · 01/11/2002 16:02

Thinking of you

oxocube · 01/11/2002 16:21

With much love to you and your family, xxx

Glee · 01/11/2002 16:27

Katherine, so sorry to hear of your loss. Take care