Possible ectopic. Scared.

[Cleenery]

Hoping for some handholding. I have one DC, had one early miscarriage before him. Now in early stages of pregnancy. Attended the early pregnancy unit yesterday for brown discharge when wiping (they wanted to see me due to previous MC). I know I'm only 4+3 as I know when I ovulate and I also know when conception was as only DTD once last month, but LMP puts me at 5+1 and that's what the EPU are going with .So they scanned me - I said they wouldn't be able to see anything as I knew it was too early. Sure enough they didn't and put me down as a pregnancy of unknown location. Bloods done yesterday revealed HCG of 79 which they said was on the low side for a viable pregnancy (but again they're insisting I'm 5+1 when I know I'm not), but progesterone was of a good level. Have to go back for bloods tomorrow to see if they're doubling. At the moment it could be a viable pregnancy that's just very early, a non viable pregnancy that will end in MC or an ectopic.

I'm terrified of an ectopic. Terrified it will rupture and I will die. A MC I can handle- with my last MC I knew it was coming because lines on my pregnancy tests were getting lighter and lighter and my progesterone was really low. With this one they're getting darker (though slowly) and obviously progesterone is high.

Has anyone got any reassurance or some hand holding. I'm so frightened.

Anyone?

Hand hold OP. A close relative had an ectopic and it's scary, theres a lot of wait and see involved which is drawn out and makes everything difficult, but it can also self resolve, the body some times occasionally just absorbs and "miscarries" the pregnancy, as it would with a mc. The fact that your levels are so low is hopeful that it will self resolve. Keep an eye out for symptoms of rupture (I am sure they told you at the clinic) of course, but there is reason to stay positive I think. And of course it can equally be "just" a mc. But I am so sorry this is happening to you... nothing about these situations is easy. Sending positive thoughts

The nurse also says if I really am only 4+3 then there's also a chance the pregnancy could still be viable. I hate waiting. It's consumed my entire day.

Do you have any other indications of an eptopic ? Do you know you have scarred tubes, do you feel cold, any aches? All I can tell you if I was so unwell with my eptopic, it’s very unlikely you would just rupture without warning.
putting that ok one side, everything crossed for you OP.

I have pelvic adhesions from my previous c section that I was told put me in the higher risk category.

I know easier said than done but try to relax - like I said there are many symptoms with an eptopic, it won’t just rupture out of nowhere.

I've had 2 ectopics and both ruptured - caused by adhesions post c section - but like others have said you'd know if you had an ectopic that had ruptured - I have a high pain threshold and been through many miscarriages and the pain was horrific - unlike anything I'd ever experienced before.
If you are certain on your dates post ovulation then try not to worry as like you say it's far too early to see something at 4+3. Your hcg levels are low either way so don't want to give you false hope that this might have a happy outcome but ectopics are still pretty rare and it's less likely to be an ectopic than a miscarriage or chemical x

I cant bear the whole watch and wait thing, it kills me

On top of that I'm worried I might never carry another pregnancy to term now thanks to these stupid adhesions. I was worried they would stop me getting pregnant but no trouble at all there.

Also what is the difference between a miscarriage and a chemical - is a chemical anything before 5 weeks?

@Cleenery

Oh sorry I guess it's just a personal thing - I class a pregnancy with low level hcg and no sac as a chemical versus a miscarriage as one where there was a sac and a baby. I had lots of losses so I guess it just helped me to compartmentalise them that way

With DS I had a scare early on like this and my HCG levels were super low then too (I think they might even have been something like 60 at 4 weeks)- they told me I'd almost certainly miscarry and I didn't; we saw him on the scan a couple of weeks after. With my miscarriage it was the same story but obviously nothing came of that - and I always had super light pregnancy tests. This pregnancy has been a bit more like DS in that I've had pretty steady line progression.

How are you doing @Cleenery

How are you doing?

I have just found out I am pregnant and because it's so early haven't told anyone yet.
I am scared it's ectopic too. I already got one fallopian tube left worried will lose this one if ectopic.
Got a pain on right side. It could be just UTI infection bad back pain.
Anxious big time.