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ftm79507 · 22/06/2022 20:07

Please help! I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again, I’ve been on the pink pill since after birth of my now 1 year old son. I’m really confused as I’ve not missed any pills ect. I had the vaccination a while ago since then my periods have been super super irregular sometimes twice in a month or none at all, resulting me taking a pregnancy test twice this year which turns out negative (just for some reassurance as I’m a very anxious person) I did one today as I am late again, thinking just the same thing and there was a positive. I’m so scared and overwhelmed. My partner is determined he doesn’t want another baby unti we are financially stable and I didn’t want another until I could drive atleast. I fear he will be furious! I’m a stay at home mum and my partner works long hours. How do I even tell him. I feel like this is all my fault I’ve looked at my pill packet and everything has been taken correctly:( although when my period has been irregular I’ve struggled with knowing when to take and stop the pill, so not sure if that’s anything to do with it (21 days on, 7 days off)

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Cocowatermelon · 22/06/2022 20:20

´pink pill’ is kind of a meaningless description. Was it the combined pill (an eostrogen + a progestogen) or a progestogen only pill?

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ftm79507 · 22/06/2022 20:29

Cocowatermelon · 22/06/2022 20:20

´pink pill’ is kind of a meaningless description. Was it the combined pill (an eostrogen + a progestogen) or a progestogen only pill?

Sorry combined

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Cocowatermelon · 22/06/2022 20:33

So the combined pill, as you said, is supposed to be 21 days on, 7 days off and normally you get a withdrawal bleed during the week off. If you bleed at other times you’re just supposed to keep to that pattern. It’s ok to run together packs and not have the 7 days off in between. But you shouldn’t stop the 21active pills early or start them late because you’ve started bleeding at an unusual time or haven’t stopped bleeding yet. Not taking the 21 active pills when you’re supposed to can make the contraception less effective.

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ftm79507 · 22/06/2022 20:42

Cocowatermelon · 22/06/2022 20:33

So the combined pill, as you said, is supposed to be 21 days on, 7 days off and normally you get a withdrawal bleed during the week off. If you bleed at other times you’re just supposed to keep to that pattern. It’s ok to run together packs and not have the 7 days off in between. But you shouldn’t stop the 21active pills early or start them late because you’ve started bleeding at an unusual time or haven’t stopped bleeding yet. Not taking the 21 active pills when you’re supposed to can make the contraception less effective.

So stupid of me I should've consulted my doctor while feeling unsure of what to do I'm so worried and it's all my fault my partner won't be happy at all

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Lazypuppy · 22/06/2022 20:49

So you haven't been taking your 21 day run correctly?

Honestly OP, you shouldnt be this scared of your partner, you could have fallen pregnant even if you were taking pill correctly as it isn't 100%. If your partner didnt want anymore kids yet was he also using condoms and taking some responsibility?

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ftm79507 · 22/06/2022 20:53

Lazypuppy · 22/06/2022 20:49

So you haven't been taking your 21 day run correctly?

Honestly OP, you shouldnt be this scared of your partner, you could have fallen pregnant even if you were taking pill correctly as it isn't 100%. If your partner didnt want anymore kids yet was he also using condoms and taking some responsibility?

I thought I had been but at time of certain months when my period came a second time I would stop taking them thinking that was the correct thing to do. I should've just consulted my doctor. Ice had so much going on with different illnesses and stresses this last few weeks I barely even thought of it. I know I shouldn't be scared but know him well enough to know his not going to want it and will be really annoyed. He didn't use condoms

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Cocowatermelon · 22/06/2022 22:02

You need to try to find out how many weeks pregnant you are. You will have some idea based on the last negative pregnancy test you had and possibly your last bleed but that can be an unreliable indicator. Call your gp practice and try to get referred for a dating scan.

Flederjo · 23/06/2022 01:39

Or do a clearblue digital with weeks. I'm not normally a fan of these but they might give you an idea of whether it's super early or whether several weeks have already gone by with you being pregnant.
And....you also have choices if you don't want to keep the baby.

PinkButtercups · 23/06/2022 06:26

The pill isn't 100% effective same as a condom. They could be 99.9% but never 100%.

PeanutButterFalcon · 23/06/2022 07:19

I’m in a similar position, DD is one, used contraception, irregular periods so not sure on dates. Not financially stable and I’ve just started a new job so no mat leave. DH is happy, it’s not what we planned but he’s ok. It’s me that’s not wanted this but am slowly getting used to it. We’ve known for 2 weeks now.
talking to DH has been the only thing to help and support. I didn’t think he would be excited but he is. He also understands I’m not excited. Your DH might be surprised.

Flederjo · 23/06/2022 07:23

PinkButtercups · 23/06/2022 06:26

The pill isn't 100% effective same as a condom. They could be 99.9% but never 100%.

She hadn't been taking them correctly though 😕

OP after all is worked out, whatever you choose, maybe something like the implant or coil would be better for you in the future? 🙂

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