HELP!

[Elliemay1767]

Hi. I just need some advice. I have a 2 year old son, and I’ve been separated from his dad since he was 5 months old, due to domestic abuse. Social services are involved, have no concerns over me but as my ex is very unpredictable, they have stayed around.

Ive been with my new partner over a year, and he’s amazing and treats my son as his own. Ive just found out I’m pregnant, and I want it so badly. My only concern is my ex finding out, which is swaying me towards having an abortion. When I look at the bigger picture I think to myself wow, how is he still able to control me and my decisions? On the other hand I’m scared of what he might do…. Any advice?

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy!
It's clear to see that you want nothing but the best for you, your son and your unborn baby. You've left your ex, he cannot control you, especially given that this isn't his baby, so it has absolutely nothing to do with him. How would he know just now anyway?
Make sure social services know asap and they might be able to advise what to do to protect yourself and your baby.

What kind of things do you think he could or might do?

Does he have contact with your Ds? Unsupervised contact?

I think discussing your concern with your SW is a good idea.

Thank you for the messages! I haven’t told my social worker as of yet just as I’ve only found out in the last couple of days. He doesn’t have unsupervised contact of our son but sees him occasionally via his dad/my sons granddad. It’s never been about our son anyway, always about me and what I’m doing. Social are fully aware of his behaviour and have to told him to seek contact through courts, but he doesn’t seem to care about police or orders, him finding out I’m pregnant could send him on a spree straight to my house