Pregnancy after neonatal loss

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Hi everyone,

We lost our beautiful daughter last month, she was born at 25 weeks and despite the neonatal unit doing everything they could, they couldn’t save her. I was bleeding from a subchorionic haematoma for the majority of the pregnancy which eventually triggered early labour. We had to have a c section as I had a low lying placenta. We have our follow up appointment with the hospital in a few weeks, but I wanted to ask here about ttc after loss. Obviously we are not ready now but the thoughts of having to wait a year due to the c section are very upsetting and I was wondering has anyone gotten pregnant sooner and was there any issues ?

any advice would be great 💐

I am so very sorry for your loss. I understand the grief. My son was born at 23+1 and was with us for four precious days.

That was in 2019. I'm pregnant again and am 30 weeks into the pregnancy so far. We were extremely lucky that we didn't have trouble conceiving. I'm under a fetal medicine consultant who offers very regular scans (usually every 3 weeks but I can have them more often if I want them). He explains at each scan the baby's chances of survival if they were born now. At 29 weeks he said the baby would have a 95% chance of survival. That gives me hope that things will be okay this time.

Go very easy on yourself. There is no pressure to do anything and you'll know if and when you are ready to TTC again. In the meantime, it's perfectly fine to grieve in whatever form that takes.

Thanks for your reply @Squiff70 im so sorry for your loss and congratulations on your pregnancy. Im so happy things are going well and that’s so nice to be seen every 3 weeks. When we were discharged from hospital we were told the chances of what happened happening again would be like lightening striking twice, so we took some solice from that. I think either way we’ll still be high risk next time. I’m just hoping it’s ok to become pregnant before 12 months after a c section, a year just seems so long.

The grief has been overwhelming, I find I’m keeping my circle very small and avoiding seeing people, which is what’s working for us at the moment. We have a beautiful 18 month old who we thank god for everyday as he’s really the thing that’s getting us through ♥️