8w5 day scan.. showing 5w5d and no heartbeat. Honest advice please.

[Riley94]

Hi, I'm really hoping I can have some advice or stories from anyone else who's been in a similar situation no matter how negative or positive the outcome I really need some honesty.

Went for an early private scan expecting to be 8w5d from LMP.
They said I'm measuring 5w5d and no heartbeat and to rescan in 2 weeks. Is it possible to have a 3 week discrepancy or do we have to prepare ourselves for the worst?
We're absolutely devastated.

For context my periods aren't super regular but never out by more than 3or4 days or so, I've had no cramping or spotting at all except 2 days ago I woke up feeling less tired and my boobs are no longer sore.

I'll attach my report incase it can make sense to anybody but this 2 week wait just feels so unfair, I'm going to call my GP first thing Monday and ask to be referred to EPU.

My first positive pregnancy test was 4 weeks ago so doesn't make sense to me that I could be just under 6 weeks?

Please be honest with me, the private scan staff couldn't give me any advice either way and just left me in tears basically.

I have experienced the same thing many years ago. My honest reaction is that there is not a lot of hope right now. I lost the baby 2+ weeks later. It is devastating. That was my second loss, so not so much of a shock as the first. I had another early loss then my son was born. I now have 3 children and have been pregnant 10 times.

Honestly, the next weeks will be difficult. The shock may partially numb you. You may hold onto hope until the last possible minute and also feel utterly hopeless. You may experience physical pain and should accept pain relief rather than allow yourself to think there is anything noble about dealing with it alone. You may need medical support and should contact your gp first thing Monday to tell them what is happening.

You definitely need to grieve and pay attention to any signals in your mental health that might indicate you need some support in processing this. If so, try to prioritise getting to see a good counsellor in reasonable time, even if you need to go private to do so.

There is usually no particular reason to wait before trying to conceive again, but your heart will find that 2 week wait a real strain, and a wait for a scan will be even harder. So I would suggest having a bit of time to feel steady.

I know some of this because they are things I didn't do, and my life was a little harder as a result. I know that because I've spent time in therapy unpicking some of the tangles that developed. I also know that this does not need to define you, and that this experience will teach you something about how to advocate for yourself, in your own mind and with others.

Every word what @Gentleness said. I’m so sorry, OP.

Honestly, I usually avoid replying on posts like these because my experience didn't go well. At 7 weeks I had pain and had a scan, found baby measuring a bit small, couldn't pick up heartbeat and was told to come back two weeks later. Had all usual pregnancy symptoms no n that 2 weeks, I had no pain, nothing felt wrong.

At 9 weeks although the scan showed the pregnancy sac the foetus had gone, it's called a missed miscarriage, it just took a while for my body to realise and for the natural process that follows to take place. I don't want to scare you but I was completely unprepared for the news at that second scan and it hit me hard. Please speak to someone if you can, I didn't and it was a mistake. We did later go on to have 2 healthy babies (who both scanned small through the entire pregnancies) but we picked up both heartbeats at 5 weeks.

I do hope you have much better news than us but the next couple weeks will be the longest of your life. Take care of yourself xxx

Contact the EPU directly and request an urgent scan. They are the best people to make a diagnosis and treat you. I'm really sorry but it doesn't look good so prepare yourself. I had a missed miscarriage and conceived quickly afterwards, all going well. There is a small chance dates can be out, measurements off but if you tested positive 4 weeks ago you should measure at least 7 weeks. Thinking of you x

It sounds like a blighted ovum or missed miscarriage. It’s sad and unfortunate but it’s also common.
your positive test was 4 weeks ago you would at least be 6 weeks along. The scan could be out by a day or so that’s normal it’s also normal not to see a heart beat until after 6 weeks. But your symptoms are vanishing which isn’t good

So sorry op ❤️💐