TTC after a missed miscarriage

[Alicemorgan2301]

Hi all, I wanted to start a thread for those of us (like myself) who have had a missed miscarriage (or just a miscarriage in general) and are looking to TTC again.

I'm currently coming to the end of going through medical management, which I'm hoping has worked as planned. Had a few days of painful bleeding but has starting to come to an end now, and I'm feeling tonnes better.

I've read lots of different things about how long to wait before starting to try again. What have others past experiences been of TTC after a MC/success stories or is anyone going through this now?

Xxx

Been through this so just to share my experience, I had surgical management and started opk's after a week or so. I had several peak's that cycle without af arriving so I am not sure if there was any ovulation before my first period.

Then first try after this I got my bfp, currently in first trimester with everything crossed!

'They' say have a period before ttc again. Everywhere I read seemed to say because of dating the pregnancy if you get your bfp that cycle. I actually think that first period helps 'clear out' our insides ready to start again. Considering I had surgical management and not really any blood loss afterwards, I lost a lot of clots which I've never seen in a period before so I think my system did need clearing out!

However there are plenty of women who don't have a period first. Everyone is different and I'd say look after yourself and try when you are ready which could be straight away or after 6 months.

Big hugs. My MMC was the most difficult experience of my life next to losing someone very very close.
Take care.

I’m sorry for your loss op.
I hope you have some good support and are looking after yourself.

I had a mmc in Jan. It was a shock and just so sad.

Everyone is different and there’s no right or wrong in how long you wait to try again.

I was not ready to try straight away, decided to wait till I got my first period, which was 4 weeks after the mc.
I used opks on cycle 3 and 4 as felt my cycles were abit out of whack, we then got our bfp on cycle 4.
I’m 6 + 5 now , still early days, definitely feel more anxious this time around but also taking each day at a time and we feel very grateful.

All the best op x

Hi @Alicemorgan2301

So sorry for your loss. I had medical management for a mmc on 24th May, so just coming up for 4 weeks. Bleeding last maybe 6 days and a scan and negative pregnancy test 2 weeks after confirmed everything passed. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through emotionally.

We aren’t waiting for a period (just personal choice) and I already started tracking ovulation. Opk’s showed a peak last Wednesday so I think I ovulated on cd23, which is a good week later than I would usually but I’ve heard that’s quite normal after a miscarriage.

Now the wait for either a period or a pregnancy, obviously I am desperate for the latter!

wishing you all the best, there is no right time, just make sure you look after yourself xx

@Alicemorgan2301 sorry for your loss.

I had surgery for the incomplete mc on 20th May. It was our first time ttc. I decided just to start dtd again about 9 days after the surgery. I ovulated last Sunday or Monday, now I’m 5/6dpo. So in a week or so I might have my first AF or bfp. I hope for a bfp but I just have the feeling it’s not going to happen this month.

Hi all. Firstly, thank you all so much for your kind words and reassuring stories, and also I am so sorry for all of your losses. I do agree, it is one of the worst things possible to go through, but I do feel like I'm starting to come out of the other side of it now.
Myself and my other half have had a chat this morning and have decided to start trying this cycle, through testing with OPKs. I'm nervous but also looking forward to moving onto this next stage (again).
Fingers crossed for you all xx

Sorry to hear your experience x
I had a MMC last October found at 10 weeks and had an ERPC. It took a further 4 weeks to get a negative pregnancy test then my period returned in December. I remember feeling so low and put so much pressure on myself to fit into the minority of women who managed to get pregnant within 2 weeks of a miscarriage. Really, my body needed some time and I was still incredibly lucky to fall pregnant in January. I’m now 6 months along :) we used soy isoflavones and ovulation sticks and are over the moon. Please be kind to yourself. Fingers crossed for you.

Sorry to hear you're going through this. Its such a shit, shit thing to go through.

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in September/October last year. It was our first month ttc and although I'm a medical professional, and I warned my husband that first pregnancy may end in miscarriage, when it happened I was completely devastated.

I took a month 'off' to heal physically for the October/November cycle, and then actually had to fly abroad for work around ovulation so that was kind of a blessing in disguise.

We started trying again in the November/December cycle but my husband was actually abroad for work that time so we missed it by a couple days.

Then in the December/January cycle we timed it right and I found out I was pregnant early January.

I'm now 27 weeks pregnant and things seem okay! It was really rocky at the start, I was adamant that I was going to miscarry again but. I had zero support from my GP unfortunately, and I am very lucky that I have colleagues who could scan me whenever I was worried which I appreciate not everyone has access to. We also paid for 2 separate private scans for reassurance.

So sorry to hear about your loss, I also had one this year. I waited two period cycles to try again, but that is because it took my body a while to recover (probably 4 weeks) and then I needed a little break. We just tried in my last ovulation cycle (Early June) so i am waiting now to see if it worked.. wishing you luck, i think you should try when you are ready. all my love.

Hi guys, hope you don’t mind if I join your thread? I found out about my MMC at my 12 week scan about a month ago. Had an MVA then some complications and a haemorrhage which was grim but feeling much better now. Hoping to TTC again once AF shows up but no idea when that will be 🤷‍♀️ I’m so sorry for all of your losses but it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one x

So sorry to hear about all your experiences with MMC. I agree, it really is such an awful thing to go through, especially when there isn't much said about it prior to it actually happening to you. Wishing health and healing to you all.

After undergoing medical management and bleeding for around 10 days, I got my negative pregnancy test two days ago. Such a bizarre experience after waiting so long for a positive to then wish for a negative, but there we go!

Feeling a lot better now both physically and mentally and ready to start thinking about trying again. Although, I am really apprehensive about the anxiety that is definitely going to come with the next (hopefully) pregnancy.

Lots of love and hugs to you all x

Good Evening,
So sorry to hear about all your experiences 😞
I also had a MMC at 12 week scan, she dated 11 weeks when heartbeat stopped. So disappointing. I had an erpc 4 weeks ago, I started spotting 2 days ago, but today a bit heavier. Did anyone else have spotting to begin with with? I’m a bit crampy and feel as if it’s going to get heavier. I’ve read 1st one is heavy.
Hope you don’t mind me jumping on. I thought I could be pregnant again with the spotting but I think it a period.
We’re hoping to try again soon.
Hopefully we will go on to have happier pregnancies looking forward.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've sadly had 2 MMCs and 2 early losses in the last 1.5 years (after struggling to conceive for 2.5 years before my first pregnancy). Apart from after my last loss, which was a MMC at 11 weeks, we TTC straight away each time. I just wanted to be pregnant again and thought it would help with my healing. I was advised that it was fine to try straight away, but it is sometimes recommended to wait for a cycle so that it's easier to date. It took me 3 cycles to get pregnant again after my 1st loss, but then managed to conceive for 3 consecutive cycles (sadly all resulted in losses).

After my 4th loss, I had to take a break whilst we underwent recurrent miscarriage tests. We started TTC 3 months later when I got the go ahead and I got pregnant that month. I'm now nearly 27 weeks and thankfully all seems to be going ok this time (this is the first time I've ever made it to the second trimester).

As others have said, there is no right time to try again, just whenever feels right for you. The one thing I would say though is after my 2 MMCs, my first period afterwards was a lot heavier and felt like a bit of a clear out if you know what I mean (sorry to be graphic) and it almost felt like my body had to go through that before getting pregnant again. Sending lots of love x

So sorry for your loss.

I had a mmc in April 2019 and then I fell pregnant again in December 2019. My pregnancy was healthy and I now have a 21 month old daughter.

I'm now 14+1 with my second baby and fell pregnant after 7 cycles of trying.

Good luck for the future! Your rainbow baby is out there waiting for you whenever the time is right for you.

Hi guys! Just an update for anyone who finds this thread later on looking for some reassurance in a really crappy situation. My AF arrived on the 26th and I was prepared for it to be horrendous but was actually pretty normal! A bit heavier at times but nothing scary and not painful so that was a relief! We’ve decided not to worry about trying again for a few months because I know it will stress me out so I’m not tracking ovulation or anything but not preventing either so we’ll see what happens! Hope everyone else on this thread is doing ok. Baby dust to all 🌟

Update from me.
Unfortunately my 12 week scan showed I'd had another mmc.
Absolutely heartbroken.

So sorry to everyone on this thread, a mc is the worst experience of my life and it's happened twice. Can't believe it.

@Chanel05
@redlou123

Your stories are inspiring, did you do anything different with the successful time?

Wishing you both much luck.

I had a mmc and surgical management, which i had on 1st June. Got my 1st negative test today so hoping to start ttc, so nervous though. So sorry to hear of everyones losses, its so sad x

Oh @dreamyunicorn I’m so so sorry. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling but I hope you’ve got lots of support and you’re looking after yourself. This is just so unfair there are no words, I’m so sorry. If they haven’t offered you tests to check everything is ok, definitely ask even if it’s just for peace of mind if you decide to try again.

Hi @Milamight I’m sorry you’ve been through this awful experience too. Glad you got your negative and good luck ttc!

Morning! Any updates anyone? My AF is due again Sunday and BFN this morning so think I’m out this month! The last of my NCT friends from when we had our first has just announced she’s pregnant with her second after a successful 12 week scan and I’m happy for her (and the others who have all got newborns) but also gutted as it brings the grief back fresh and I’d have been nearly 6 months with our second by now. Anyway, if anyone is still reading this thread I hope you’re ok and holding onto hope that our rainbow babies are on the way 🌈 much love xx

Hi all, has anyone had any success? I'm on cycle three now since my MMC in May. Currently 2DPO and the two week wait seems to get longer and longer each time!! Some positive news from someone would definitely fill me with hope xxx

@Alicemorgan2301 I did 😊tentatively optimistic but I fell pregnant that first cycle, should be 12 weeks tomorrow.

I had a scan at 9+2 and everything looked fine, but very very nervous something could have happened between then and now. I’m also on progesterone until 16 weeks as even with this pregnancy I had 3 early bleeds before 6 weeks.

Wishing you so much luck with this cycle OP 💞💞

Hi, sorry for all your losses :(
I had a MMC at 6 weeks in December last year. We started TTC again strait away, it took my body a good few months to regulate itself again but I'm now 9 weeks pregnant, still very nervous but all the signs by body is giving me is telling me all is well so far. I had a scan last Sunday, saw our little bean and I cried when we heard their heart beat. Totally went into that room expecting the worst again. There is hope, I'm still quite early on but this time just feels different and I have a good feeling it's going to be ok.
Keep going it will happen, sending you all the best of luck for your 🌈 babies

Oh wow! Congratulations to you both! Wishing you all the luck in the world with your new pregnancies. I bet hearing that heartbeat was the best feeling in the world. I just can't wait for that day. Feeling optimistic about this cycle, and hearing your good news fills me with so much hope xxx

@Alicemorgan2301 thank you so much. It was amazing. Hang in there your time will come 🌈🌈

@Alicemorgan2301 thank you ♥️Definitely remain optimistic, you will get that day too 🌈xx