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First baby must have checklist

34 replies

Bubbles021 · 17/06/2022 10:06

Hi everyone,
I'm currently 31+5 with my second baby, but the first to come home with us. I've been very slack at buying things as we lost our first baby at 33 weeks last year, so I've found it hard to buy things in case anything went wrong.
However, our son was very poorly which was why he died, and our little girl this time is thriving, so there's no reason she won't be coming home!
Now that I'm starting to finally accept that we're having a baby in just over 7 weeks (c section booked at 39 weeks), I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with what we still need to buy for her.
We have a bed that we brought for our son and she has clothes, but we still need a car seat and pram that we're going for next week.
What else do we need? I'm worried about not having 'essentials' that I would never have even thought about! What would be on your 'baby checklist' for parents bringing home a baby for the first time?
Thank you so much for your help! 💙

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SecondhandTable · 18/06/2022 04:50

There are some things I didn't buy until after the birth because we didn't realise we would want/need/use them, so I'm going to highlight those:

  • Loads of muslins
  • Loads of dummies
  • Dummy clips
  • Sleepytot bunnies
  • Lullaby music player that attaches to the cot
  • Groblind
  • Baby changing bag (basically just a large satchell with loads of different pockets and compartments)
  • Nappy bin and liners
  • Baby sleeping bags
  • Lansinoh - I was initially mostly breastfeeding
  • Nipple shields - had a lot of difficulty with the breastfeeding
  • Breast pump - only had a manual with DC1 which was ok but bought the Pipetta hands-free electric pump for DC2 which was much better.
  • Clip to go on the pram handle to hang bags off.
  • Baby Banz sunglasses, and ear defenders
  • Snoozeshade for the pram
SunshineAndFizz · 18/06/2022 06:53

Congratulations!

Loads of great advice already mentioned.

My other nugget, if you have a c-section, I'd get a neck pillow (like you'd have on an aeroplane). For the first week or so I slept sitting up and it was a life saver!

110APiccadilly · 18/06/2022 06:58

I've zipped through the comments so someone may have already mentioned this, but if you're planning to breastfeed you might want one of those breastfeeding cushions - helps after a C-section in keeping baby from pushing on the scar while feeding.

Other than that, I think everything I can think of has been mentioned!

Runkle · 18/06/2022 07:10

I wouldn't get top many swaddles, mine hated it so we used blankets then a sleep bag when she was at the right weight. We used the Purflo Sleep Tight nest and she loved it from day 1 and I'd recommend this over the sleepyhead
A note about dummies - she would only accept Mam ones because she had Mam bottles. I'd bought a few from Boots etc but she wouldn't take then.

Titsflyingsouth · 18/06/2022 09:51

Muslins - loads of them! They are so practical.

ALittleBitofVitriol · 19/06/2022 03:10

Yes, dummies and breast pads! Forgot those, thanks for the reminder!

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/06/2022 03:30

Titsflyingsouth · 18/06/2022 09:51

Muslins - loads of them! They are so practical.

This is honestly the only thing that I'd say is 100% essential.

Maybe your baby with like dummies or swaddles or slings. But maybe not. Maybe you'll take to BFing or not. You don't want t buy a pump or bottle prep machine until you know.

But muslins, thousands of them, are essential.

rosewater20 · 19/06/2022 04:04

georgarina · 17/06/2022 21:40

AOTA plus -
Sleepyhead for daytime naps
Weighted swaddle from Nested Bean - they are incredible and helped my babies sleep for longer stretches

The sling I use is the Baby K'Tan, it's really easy and lightweight and you can use it from birth to 1 year.

Also, look on Gumtree/Ebay for stuff rather than getting it new.

Sleepyhead are dangerous for sleep (even supervised sleep as you can't tell the difference between a sleeping baby and one that has stopped breathing). This is from the Lullaby Trust: "Items such as cushioned sleeping pods, nests, baby hammocks, cot bumpers, pillows, duvets and anything that wedges or straps a baby in place can pose a risk to babies under 12 months. Evidence shows that sleeping a baby on anything but a firm, flat surface, or using soft, heavy bedding, can increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). They can lead overheating or potentially obstruct a baby’s airway if they roll or their face becomes covered by loose bedding."

I know that can be triggering but safe sleep is so important and just because something is being sold doesn't make it safe for sleep.

OP, we are due around the same time and my must haves from my first baby are:

Baby Bjorn bouncer (again, not safe for sleep but perfect for awake and keeping baby occupied while you get stuff done/shower)

Baby Bjorn soft carrier

Aden Anais muslin blankets (I just bought a pack of them and that was enough)

two baby towels

four baby flannels

2 cot sheets

2 bassinet sheets

8 footed pjs in newborn and 0-3 months

4 pack leggings in newborn and 0-3 months

pack of baby shirts in newborn and 0-3

(I bought a couple of 1 month outfits from M&S which helped when baby was too big for newborn but too small for 0-3 months).

Love to dream baby swaddle

baby bath (baby bjorn bathtub, works from newborn and still use it on our toddler and I like that I can fold it up and get it out of the way)

I like glass bottles and think they hold up better than plastic. We used Nattursutten and really loved the Nattursutten soothers too. I have heard good things about Tommee Tippee bottles too.

Bottle cleaning brush

Bottle sterliser

Bottle drying thing

Spectra Breastpump if you are breastfeeding (I used mine right from the start and didn't have issues with oversupply and found that it allowed me to get more sleep as I could pump and DH could do the first feeding of the morning).

car seat (really like Cybex and they always rate highly on the safety tests).

Pram

Baby nail clippers

Baby nose aspirator

Baby saline for nose

Thermometer

And a list for you for postpartum:

Lanolin cream

Frieda Mom labour recovery kit

meal service to deliver healthy foods/stock freezer with healthy soups, meals, etc.

Massive water bottles for around the house. You will feel very dehydrated after birth and if you are breastfeeding.

ear plugs (babies are very noisy and it can be hard to sleep through their little sleep sounds, I wore ear plugs and could still hear baby cry in the night/hear the alarm I set to wake up to feed baby).

Remember that your basic needs have to come first, you can't take care of baby if your basic needs aren't being met so remember to prioritise feeding yourself, getting enough water, being able to take a few minutes alone and showering, etc. Always sleep when baby is sleeping, don't worry about housework but get as much sleep as possible so that you can be mentally healthy.

Books:

The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother

Elevating childcare: Janet Lansbury

No Bad Kids: Janet Lansbury

fossilsmorefossils · 19/06/2022 06:01

Fill your freezer with healthy meals that only need heating up. Get a haircut before your c section, you won't go get another for a while after.

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