Really struggling with anxiety 10w3d

[mrsgtobe97]

Hi everyone,

10w3d today and really struggling with anxiety that something has gone wrong with baby. I had a scan at 6w4d and everything was fine & a heartbeat, and I have a private scan booked for a week tomorrow but today I've been consumed by feelings of anxiety, crying a lot, thinking something bad has happened and I generally don't feel pregnant and my symptoms aren't bad at all just now. I'm terrified something has gone wrong after trying for so long, I just don't know what to do. I thought about bringing my scan date forward but partner wasn't keen on that idea and thinks I just need to wait it out until then. I have a midwife appointment tomorrow so going to bring it up but I feel like what's the point in these appointments if it turns out nothings there :( sorry long rant just feel emotionally drained with it

I remember this well - being pregnant was easily the longest nine months of my life and every single kick was a celebration (I felt the first kick at 20w so you'll have a while to go there). The reassurance ramps up once your midwife gets the doppler out at appointments; it's quicker and cheaper than a scan (free on the NHS) and you can hear a heartbeat 💓

I'm just shy of 18 weeks now so just about coming out of that high anxiety phase where nothing will appease your mind because you simply don't feel pregnant. It's such a weird time. I remember when I got a positive at 4 weeks then being told nothing was going to happen until week 12, it felt like a lifetime away. But it went by quite quickly and now things are ramping up a bit. I heard my babies heartbeat for the first time this week and a bump is starting to show, but it feels like it took a long time to get here and it still doesn't really feel like I'm pregnant.

For me, I chose not to pay for private scans, especially early ones, as I felt it would just make me want to keep going for more to get the reassurance. Instead I took that from the fact that I wasn't bleeding & wasn't having any hideous pains. I know that doesn't guarantee anything but the chances are, if you were having a problem your body would probably tell you.

Also, I really recommend staying away from looking through the pregnancy board on here or other sites. They're amazing if you have specific questions, but they are also used by people who are suffering difficulties who are looking for help and it can be all to easy to overload yourself with upsetting things and end up convinced they will happen to you when in fact most pregnancies progress with no issues.

If you're 10+3 today, you must be due to have your 12 week scan within a few days of the private scan you've booked. If you can, I'd hold off until you go for the NHS one.

The placenta takes over around 9 weeks so symptoms really fade around this time. I know what it's like to suffer anxiety while pregnant as I went through it after a missed miscarriage. All I can say is it gets better at each milestone, but doesn't go away completely. 12 weeks, 20 weeks, 24 weeks, it got easier, then every week you make after that. keep telling yourself the odds are you're more likely to walk away with a baby in your arms than something going wrong x

More than likely it just means that the placenta has started to take over and you're starting to feel better! Exactly the same happened to me.

However, I would 100% be getting an earlier scan, that's what reassurance scans are there for. You might even be able to get one today. Why not just get rid of the worry?

@Cocobeau thank you 😊 yeah some posts on here do make me worry and makes my fear of silent miscarriages heighten a lot. So the reason for I think a lot of the added stress and also the early scan is because our wedding is 1st July and our official nhs scan isn't until 6th July when I'm 13weeks 3days, so as we want to tell people at the wedding I wanted a scan to reassure me everything was okay before telling people. I'm terrified of it all going wrong just before the wedding and being miserable at it xx

Booked a scan for tonight so not long before I will have answers, and I have my midwife appointment today at 2. Gotten myself so worked up this morning as I haven't felt or been sick and I've been sick every morning since 4 weeks, just don't feel hopeful :(

🤞OP

@Ishacoco so hope it's okay, 6.30 so not long to go 🥲

Perfectly healthy, saw and heard the heartbeat, measuring two days ahead so 10w6d today and he / she was wriggling around 💕

Fab news!! 💗