5 weeks pregnant - some reassurance please

[S0220]

Hi all

I'm 5w+1 today. This is my second time falling pregnant, I currently have an almost 2.5 year old.

I'm really struggling to feel connected to this pregnancy. With my first, I felt an overwhelming sense of connectedness from the minute we found out. Whereas this time around it's different. I don't even feel pregnant. I've got zero symptoms and it's playing on my mind, in the back of my head I keep feeling that no symptoms must mean something is wrong. And so subconsciously im trying not to get too attached if that makes sense?

I keep obsessively testing too. My lines on FRER are super strong and pink and come up instantly. I did a CB digital last week that came up 2-3 weeks so that's reassuring in itself.

Has anybody else felt like this or currently feels this way? I feel super guilty because we want another little one more than anything and I feel like I should be happier than this 😕

I've given myself some reassurance!

My last CB digital was 2 days ago and appeared 2-3 weeks. Just did this 5 mins ago (so not even FMU) and got my 3+ weeks 🥰🥰🥰

Aww love to see it! Do feel a bit more relaxed/connected now?

@whatsnewpussycat34 thanks so much. I actually do feel such a sense of relief. It's amazing what seeing that little number on a screen can do to you. I still feel strange that I have zero symptoms but seeing the 3+, especially with it not being FMU, has definitely put a huge huge smile on my face tonight 🥰🤞🏽

Didn't have the chance yet to experience it personally, but I know of several women that had completely different pregnancies. The second one was with less or no symptoms and in no case did this result in a reason of concern. Wish you to fully enjoy the experience and your babies!

@Hope15022023 thank you so much for the reassurance. It's just so hard not to compare to previous experience!

Congratulations! The fact you’ve been obsessively testing shows how much you care and want this, but you’re probably not allowing yourself to get too attached and excited until you feel more confident baby will be ok. That’s just human, so don’t worry - it will come. Fingers crossed everything progresses well.

I feel the same, I'm 5 weeks with my first and keep testing as the symptoms I had initially (sore boobs, fatigue, and one occasion of a metallic taste) have dropped off. Just did a test this morning to reassure myself. It doesn't feel real. We're so ready for a little one and my DH is so excited by the news. How do we cope? Can you imagine what it must have been like before pregnancy tests were invented!

@justsayso congratulations! have you contacted your gp/midwife yet? I'm booked in to see the midwife in two weeks time. I feel like that will help things feel a bit more real.

I went to the GP on Monday and she did a general check, giving advice etc. it felt nice to talk about it openly with somebody especially as we haven't told anybody yet. Maybe this will help?

I only really felt a sense that I was pregnant and wanted my baby when I had my 12 week scan and saw it jumping about on the screen. Made me realise there is actually a little person in there! I'm 16 weeks now.

@S0220 that's good that your GP did a general chat/check with you, I didn't get offered that. I've got my booking in appointment with the midwife on the 14th of July, which is ages away!
We live quite rurally and my friends all live in a different county, I've only told one friend so I think not having someone to check in with is making it hard. DH is being as nice as he can though and will listen to my anxious ramblings.
I think because externally I look no different I'm finding it difficult to match what's going on inside up with reality!
Are you feeling as if it isn't really happening then? What was it like with your first?

@justsayso well I'm now at a different practice than I was with my son given that we're moved areas since having him. I phoned up to find out what their protocol is, as I know all practices do things differently. With my first, I just had the midwife booking in appt at about 8/9 weeks. So I was quite surprised when they offered me a GP appointment first.

I know exactly what you mean. With my first, I felt so exhausted. My boobs were killing me, my appetite was through the roof. I was falling asleep at 8pm most nights. And all of that from about 4/5 weeks. Whereas this time, I absolutely have none of that. I feel brilliant, if anything I have more energy now than ever. Which is why I'm quite anxious and keep feeling that something must be wrong. I have woken up twice this week feeling quite nauseous so I guess that's something.

I keep reading from people that no two pregnancies are the same and so I shouldn't compare, but it's really hard not to!

Well best of luck with number 2! I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of us - maybe we could update after the first scan? Feels like tempting fate to type that 🤐

@rickandmorts sorry must have missed your post!
Congratulations to you 🥰 with my first, we had an early reassurance scan at about 8 weeks so I definitely know what you mean when you say having a scan made it all the more real!

@justsayso thanks! And to you too. Yes I will gladly update after the 12 week scan. Keeping my fingers crossed for both of us 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Hi sorry to jump in!

Im 5 weeks as well and my symptoms keep coming and going. When they go it makes me so anxious that something is wrong!

hope you’re all doing ok!

@Chlostoke congratulations!

I am now 6+5 and I can most definitely say that symptoms have increased by now compared to when I was 5 weeks! I still have some days when I feel absolutely fine and I equally get a bit anxious.

I kind of regret wishing I had symptoms so early on haha because I do have days where I'm so exhausted and the nausea is constant. Everybody is different though and I'm sure you'll have some symptoms kick in soon enough ☺️

I'm 14 weeks with baby number 2 - and have felt the exact same. I didn't feel anything really up until I had my scan this week! Feeling much more excited now!

This is baby number 2 for me and I’m sure if I could get my Google history from 6 years ago it would be identical to what I’m searching now 🙃😐😂

congrats to you too! @S0220 x