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36 weeks and had enough!

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Tigerlily08 · 13/06/2022 20:08

Argggghhhhh I'm sorry I need to vent before I scream/ cry/ down a bottle of gin (I joke)...

Anyone else just feeling at the end of their tether? I'm 36 weeks with my 2nd baby (my first is only 13 months) but I'm just finding it so tough this time round. My DD is my absolute world, but I'm struggling to look after her by myself while DP is at work. When I was pregnant with her, I had PGP from the start of the 3rd trimester. This time round it started at 10 weeks and has got progressively worse.

DP isn't being particularly helpful. We're both Prison Officers, but I've been off for a while because I'm Type 1 Diabetic and my blood glucose was an absolute nightmare. My maternity leave has now kicked in at 36 weeks which is fine with me. He comes home from work and moans that he's tired (I get it, I do the exact same job...) so he grabs a beer from the fridge and sits on his phone/ computer until it's time for bed and does nothing to help, despite my numerous whinges pleading for support. He's happy for me to clean, do the washing, look after our DD, cook and wash up. He's a great dad and does help with DD when he's about, but on shift work he often goes 4-5 days without seeing her at all.

Every evening, I just want to sit down and cry. I'm in so much pain with the PGP and just feel exhausted. I'm still doing the night shifts with DD as well because he has to work. I'm relying more and more on Co-codamol to get me through the day pain-wise.

I have a planned section booked for 3 weeks tomorrow. I have antenatal tomorrow, do you think if I tell them how I feel they'll bring the section forward by even a week? The thought of another 3 weeks of this is killing me. I've tried speaking to DP many times (including tonight) but he just nods and stares at me like I'm nagging and moaning about nothing....

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littlemissalwaystired · 13/06/2022 20:15

Sorry you're feeling this way, your DH definitely needs to up his game with supporting you. Unfortunately they'll be reluctant to move your caesarean to before 39 weeks unless it was strongly medically indicated and that's because despite babies being full term from 37 weeks, respiratory distress syndrome is higher in c-section babies

littlemissalwaystired · 13/06/2022 20:16

Think half of my post cut off? Weird. Respiratory distress is higher in c-section babies *BEFORE 39 WEEKS was what I was meant to saySmile if at all possible then your baby would be better off with an extra week in utero to help lung development.

Loulou377 · 13/06/2022 20:21

Hi, not a huge amount of advise to offer but I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I’m 38 weeks with a 13month old and finding it hard. I also have a c section booked for 39 weeks (1 week today!) and it cannot come quick enough! I have actually found the last 2 weeks have gone quite quickly. At 36 weeks I also felt like it was never ending! Try to enjoy the last few weeks with your first born. The PGP is a killer for me too but I’ve tried to get him out most days and luckily he walks well so tires easily and still has long naps! Sadly he’s just got chicken pox so our last week together as a two is dragging not being able to get out of the house :(
best of luck!

newtolineofduty · 13/06/2022 20:24

OP I feel your pain! I had my baby five days ago and honestly I'm more mobile and in less pain after a bloody c-section! And have loads more energy! I had horrific heartburn and didn't sleep for weeks and am very much enjoying not being pregnant! I just coped by counting down the days and doing as little as possible so agree with others that DP needs to try and understand better and do more! I have a three year old so whilst I was able to keep up with housework etc my DP did the lions share of taking her out on a weekend etc X

boydy99 · 13/06/2022 20:46

I'm 38+1 and hoping DS2 will come early! also got PGP, horrific heartburn (though less recently as I think baby has dropped), awful swelling and just generally exhausted! I have a 2.5yo. my DH also works long days but he takes over as soon as he gets in, looks after DS1, tidies kitchen, washing, gets DS1 ready for bed. we are both tired but that's just how it is for now, it's not fair for your DP to come back from work and put his feet up.

Tigerlily08 · 13/06/2022 20:46

Thanks all, it's nice to know I'm not alone (not that I would wish it on all of you!)

I keep flitting between thinking that there were viking women who literally went into battle until they popped and wanting to sit in bed and do nothing with a tub of ice cream...

I'm hoping my latest of a long line of moans will be enough to make him realise he's being a bit of a dick x

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