WWYD...scan?

[dollface22]

Thought I was 8w but showing behind by 10 days according to a private scan I had. Saw a HB didn't give me HB number. In fact she was very dismissive & vague about dates etc.
I am diagnosed chronic health anxiety & OCD. After my horrible experience I had a set back and was doing reassurance seeking behaviour googling for hours etc & having a breakdown over dates etc. I've got. 4 weeks til my NHS dating scan which to me is hell on earth Waiting but as I've known I. The past more tests can lead to more anxiety. Or do I wait for main scan and try and relax & meditate etc also I have had losses before which can add to my anxiety!

Thank in advance xx

Sorry you’re experiencing anxiety. Showing 10 days behind isn’t necessarily a problem - but early pregnancy is really just a waiting game.

Obviously the reason they scan at 12 weeks is because they can see more and know this is a good benchmark to get to. Earlier scans may offer some reassurance but they often can’t tell you much to the baby’s health etc.

I couldn’t wait to the 20 week scan with mine, as felt so anxious for various reasons, so paid for a private scan at 18 weeks. There’s nothing wrong with doing this once or twice during your pregnancy.

But if it becomes a regular thing, as you know, this will only fuel your anxiety as you’ll rely on them too much for reassurance.

You’ve got a month to wait - why not see if you can wait two weeks and if you can’t wait any longer, have a scan then? If you find you can wait, then hang on for the 12 week scan.

Please don’t worry about the private scan, wait until you have your 12 week scan. Early pregnancy can be all over the place and that’s why the NHS wait until 12 weeks. The nhs scan will provide you with more information and hopefully more reassurance.
I know 4 weeks will feel really long but honestly it will fly by try keep yourself busy.
I also suffer with health anxiety. I had a private scan at 6 weeks as I wanted to confirm I was pregnant. I had another one at 8 weeks and it genuinely made me feel worse. The 12 week and 20 week scans were very reassuring and it made me feel better to talk to my midwife and consultant about how I was feeling. Please phone your local midwife team and ask to have a chat with one of them
about your mental health. They are there to support you!

@Merryclaire @Hiddenvoice thanks so much made
Me 🥺
I will wait, until the 12 week and my i told my midwife and she said if I'm measuring any less at the nhs one as according to
The Private one I will b 11 weeks ish. So they can book me in another one. So just to go along!
So as hard as it is I think another scan would set my anxiety off your right so I will wait and keep busy thanks xx 😚 for all
Your support x