Potentially miscarrying and feeling so alone

[ToadstoolFairy]

5 weeks pregnant and potentially miscarrying.

Since finding out I’m pregnant last weekend I’ve had pink tinged discharge a few times, which didn’t concern me. I knew it could be implantation etc … However yesterday I had lower stomach cramps and back cramps consistently throughout the day, and when I wiped I had fresh red blood. It wasn’t on my pad, but it was definitely there when I wiped. Since then I’m getting the odd bit of browny coloured blood when I wipe.

I called my GP and was told in so many words that it’s probably a MC and to treat it as a “late period.”

Nobody knows I’m pregnant except my DH and I’m finding this so difficult. Knowing I could be having a MC is terrifying and I just feel in limbo not knowing if I’ll go to the toilet and have blood everywhere, or if things are okay.

Does anyone have any words of advice or comfort?

Sorry to hear you’re going through this. Unfortunately it could go either way. Many successful pregnancies have bleeding early on or all the way through. If the bleeding progresses and is accompanied by cramps I would guess that it’s an early miscarriage. As hard as it is, it’s a case of wait and see at the moment.

GPs are reluctant to help at this point because there isn’t a lot they can do. Some can make a referral to see if your HCG is doubling every 48 hours but I don’t know what the criteria for this is. If the bleeding slows it might be helpful to book an early private scan for between 6-7 weeks to give you some reassurance. I really hope you get a positive outcome.

My cousin had bleeding all through her pregnancy and now has a healthy baby boy. I know it is very common. How painful were the cramps? Just like mild period cramps or more painful?

@Moonshine160 Thank you for taking the time to reply. It’s so hard knowing it could go either way, if I knew for sure I could try and move forward. I was considering booking a private scan as we had a private scan with our first DC and it was a wonderful experience, but the possibility of having to travel, have the actual scan and be told “there is no heartbeat” puts the shits up me.

@Bristolgal567 Thank you for replying. And oh wow! All the way through? That must have been difficult for your cousin. :( The cramps were definitely ‘there’ but it’s hard to tell the severity. I could still walk about and ‘function’ so they weren’t that bad. I was definitely more aware of them though.

This morning I’m having on and off cramps and had one instance of brownish spotting.

I'm so sorry you're in this limbo land, it's so hard. And medically, they can do nothing for you or baby really so they essentially don't care. It's horrible.
Unfortunately, 5 weeks is too early for a heartbeat so I think you'd need to wait a few weeks for a scan to be confirmed either way.
Have you rung your early pregnancy unit? They may test your HCG levels to see if they're rising or falling.
Hugs and take care. Tell a friend or two if you think it would help. The initial loneliness, helplessness and uncertainty of my miscarriage was so so hard.