Just off the back of another thread I just read about when to tell people, I see a lot of people not telling now until 20 weeks. Can I ask why people would wait until then?
I am currently 11 weeks pregnant with my first, and have not yet told anyone. I feel very protective of the news, and rather vulnerable. But I am struggling to hide it and feel like I am lying to people, which I do not want to do. My partner and I decided we would tell people after the 12 week NHS scan, which is tomorrow. So he is keen to tell our families this weekend and seems very excited.
But there are just some people that if they knew, would make me feel uncomfortable. These people are all on my partners side of the family. Unfortunately, for want of being fair, I feel we cannot tell my family if we are not telling his. I haven't even told my brother, which has been a big struggle for me as we are extremely close and I know how happy he will be for us, as this is a very longed for pregnancy. However, I really dislike the idea of his mother and sisters knowing and asking me personal questions. They are all quite opinionated, and overbearing. His mother is very much head of the household and will instantly try to tell me what I need to be eating, doing etc. Even the thought of it is overwhelming. This will be my first child and I want to feel confident and ready, whereas I feel they will make me feel inferior and small. His sisters all have children already and they are all highly critical and judgemental of eachother, so I imagine would be even worse towards me.
Has anyone else felt like this? I know I can't hide it from them forever, but I am just so reluctant to include them in something so special. I know in my head I need to set boundaries, I just don't know how to build my confidence to do so.